I need to know only one thing ... me and my girlfriend have been going out for about a year and we finally well kinda decided the thing is it kinda happened suddenly ... all that happened was i put it in and we went for about 10-15 secs about 4 times in one night ... i had no condom on and she was on no pills or anything ... i did have an orgasm and i was wonderin what is the possibility that she could be pregnant??? is it very likely or not very we have now decided to wait and i have a condom at all times in case we feel the need. Thanks

Yes, she could be pregnant. Anytime semen/ejaculate/sperm - even one drop leaves your penis it is possible that you could have caused her to be pregnant. There is no way I can know what chance she has, but 4 times means you have a better chance than had you stopped after just one time.

This is exactly why every one who has sex needs to be prepared at all times. You never know when you are going to decide to take the next step- so you must always be prepared.

Your girlfriend needs to take a pregnancy test. To be sure that it is accurate she should wait one week after you had sex. If it is negative - she should take another test in another week. If it is positive she needs to go to the doctor immediately.

ONE DROP of sperm can make a woman pregnant - if you don't want to get her pregnant you must ALWAYS use a condom. No exceptions - not ever - no matter what!

Susan

Ok thanks alot but i need to know one thing we are only 16 years old ... i want to know how likely girls get pregnant from doing what we did?

If your girlfriends has had her first period she is fertile and the likelihood of her getting pregnant when you came inside her 4 times without protection is pretty high.

At 16 a girl can get pregnant from the first time she has sex and the guy she is with ejaculates just outside her vagina.

It is like you aimed a bullet at a girl's chest 4 times and wonder if one of the bullets is going to hit her heart and kill her.

Sex requires responsible, adult behavior and you have proven you are not yet an adult

Your girlfriend must take a pregnancy test a week after you have had sex. If it is positive - she must see a doctor immediately. If it is negative she must take the test again a week later.

If she is pregnanat - talk to your parents. You have already proven you can not make responsible adult decisions. Your parents can help you no matter how angry they might be. A child's life is important - and you need to make the best decision for all the children involved - abortion, adoption, or raising the child yourselves.

I wish you luck - and I hope that you have been lucky this time and she is not pregnant.
Susan

Susan

Ok i don't think you understand my question i went only like half way inside of her 4 times in one night , we went half way inside and in and out about 10 times each time ... i never ever had an orgasm ... i never nutted inside of her ... i know that precum can still cause it but is the possibility of this really that high? Thanks for your help

Precum is just as powerful as cum. There really is no difference.

If you only had precum 4 times your risk is less, but not much.

Sex is very serious stuff! The minute your put your unsheathed (no condom) penis anywhere near her vagina (not even inside) you are taking a BIG risk. You put it inside her and you double your risk. Every second you stay inside your risk increases.

I know you want me to say - don't worry - it will be OK - but it MIGHT not be. You have taken an ENORMOUS risk!

Susan

Well thanks but her period has came and we have decided to wait a while before we start to do it again ... and when we do we will be smart and use protection im really a smart boy but i was just kinda into it a lil much that night ... i have one other question ... ive read the things on her about a womens g'spot but i have another question about it .. does it kinda feel like a cicular thing inside of her with a different texture .. this thing is really far inside of her and i was wonderin if this was it ... well thanks for all your help and hope you have a wonderful life ... laterz

I am so glad her period has started! But please consider this your lucky break and BE smart for here on out. Carry a condom on you ALL the time.

And also know that women sometime continue to have periods off and on when they are pregnant - so if she misses her next one or starts to need to throw up alot - see a doctor or take a pregnancy test.

Yes what you felt is her g-spot. It usually isn't exactly round - but it might feel that way to you--and yes it has a different texture.

Good luck.
Susan

Hey thanks for all your help but i still have a few questions ... the period came at just the right time of the month, so that means she is definitly not pregnant right, you said they could still have periods - would these be just like the normal ones that girls have? I would really like to know more on the period subject and things about it. Also one other thing , about the throwing up - would this be like in the morning, night, or like after she eats or soemthing... also i need to know one more thing - is it possible for a girl to get pregnant while on a period ( no we haven;t did this i was just wondering!) ok well thanks alot for all of your help and respond back please.

Worried,

If your girlfriend is a teenager - it is POSSIBLE that what looks like her regular menstrual period could not be and she coud be pregnant. ( Not likely, but possible.)

Pregnant women have all sorts of patterns to their throwing up. Most common is first thing in the morning - which is why it is called "morning sickness", but some women throw up all day, others just after they eat, and some just from thinking about food.

It is a falacy to think that women cannot get pregnant during their menstrual periods. Again - it is HIGHLY unlikely - but it is POSSIBLE.

There are few absolutes in sex. That is why you need to always take precautions - even when you think things are safe.

Susan

Hey i have just a few more questions about the pregnant thing that i would like to know... What is the possibility that a girl goes through her period when she is pregnant and does that mean that there will be some kind of difficulties with the baby? Also could you explain ovulation for me and tell me when it occurs and if it happens when a girl is pregnant? What exackly is morning sickness and how long after pregnancy does this start to occur, how does it make the girl feel? When a woman is ovulating does she have very bad cramps or lets say could she have very bad cramps? Is there any way for the guy to tell, by going down on the girl, that she could possibly be pregnant? When a girl ovulates is it true that a clear creamy type of fluid comes out? Ok if you could answer all these question for me i would appreciate very much... and on some of the question where i ask if this could mean if the girl is pregnant would you please kind of tell me the possibility that if could mean that, not in numbers but in words, like probably, maybe, highly, highly not likely, etc.

Thanks alot,

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Most of the questions you are asking don't have precise answers. But I'll to answer how I can.

There is a low possibility of a girl having her period if she pregnant, but it is higher for teenagers.

There is a greater chance she will have difficulty with the baby because she does not get good medical care. Pregnant women ( especially teenage women) need special vitamins, have to have the baby size and position checked. prenatal care is CRUCIAL for teenagers who are pregnant.

When a women is born inside her body she carries all the eggs she will ever have. In order for an egg to develop into a baby it must be carried from the ovary through the fallopian tube and deposited into the walls of the uterus. That process of traveling through the fallopian tubes is called ovulation. Before a girl can get pregnant an egg must be present in the uterus to be fertilized.
It is unlikely to happen when a girl is pregnanat, but it is not out of the question.

Morning sickness is the body's way of telling a women her body's hormones are disrupted by the presense of a baby and are making her stomache sick. She feels like and usually vomits alot. Some women have morning sickness almost fron the very first day they are pregnant - while other women do not have it at all, and some have it only the last 3 months.

Some women have very bad cramps when they ovulate and some have none. Some have their cramps while they are menstruating, and for some women this signals the end of cramps.

There is no way for a guy to know if a girl is pregnant by "going down: on her. If you thought she was just getting fat and she didn't know she was pregnant there would be no way for you to tell even if she was going to have the baby the next day.

When many women ovulate clear creamy fluid comes out, but for some women their is no noticeable fluid. Some women have a lot of ovulation fluid - some have very very little.

Hope this helps. Has your girlfriend taken a preganancy test yet?

Susan

Hey, I was looking on the web for some information about this too. I was having sex with my girlfriend and our condom broke. We did some looking around and found out a few things:

1) There are many pills that you can take by going to a Planned Parenthood clinic that can prevent pregenacy about 75% of the time if taken within 5 days of insemination. For example, average pregenacy rates are about 8% on average when a woman is fertile (it actually fluctuates during the last 2 weeks of her period), but say for instance 100 women had sex, 8 of them got pregenant, then they all took one of these "morning after" pills, about 2 of them would still be pregenant.

2) There's been a couple of studies that say pre-ejaculatory fuild doesn't actually contain sperm, however most doctors recommend that if you're concerned you take a "morning after" pill anyway, evidently it doesn't hurt to be safe.

3) If this fails, there are some medical pills that you can take within 49 days of gestation that will cause an abortion approximately 100% of the time.

4) If that fails (very unlikely), then the only option left to prevent pregnancy is some sort of surgical abortion.

Basically, if you act soon on the issue... then its not an issue. My girlfriend and I regularly use condoms and we still had an accident.

Generally I am against abortion and for people acting responsibly, but even when you act responsibly sometimes these things happen (12 years of being sexually active and this is the second time i've ever had any sort of scare at all).

Oh and from a guys perspective here... I do *not* recommend using any "thin" or "ultra thin" condom. This is the second time in one box that one of those damn things broke on us, the first time we were lucky, but in retrospect we should have just dumped them and bought some "regular" ones.

Jake,

First, thanks for all your notes today.

You are right about the variety of pillls available, but not all are available everywhere. ( Some are in a test market, some are available only in certain countries and states.) What you'll find is that one Planned Parenthood might stock one kind and another PP another - and a lot of the people who read this don't live anywhere near a PP. Most doctors - unless they specialize in this area will not know about any or all these pills. So dependence on their existence is shakey at best.

Yes, there are some researchers that say there is no sperm is pre-ejaculatory fluid/ pre-cum, but most still say there is. Personally if pregnancy is something I do not want to risk, I am going to believe the guys who say its there.

And on condoms.........yes, if you have a bad condom - best to throw out the box. ALTHOUGH it may be only one bad condom in the box. But what is most likely is that in shipping the condoms got too cold or too hot, or the way you kept them yourself, or their sell-by date has passed ---or they had some teeny tiny imperfection - not visible to the naked eye and that caused the condom to rip/tear.

I'm not sure that ultra thin condoms are to blame - some have gotten good durability ratings. But what is more important, especially with thinner condoms that you handle them correctly and use a lubrication both inside and outside the condom.

Thanks again Jake!
Susan

Susan, I can't thank you enough for telling these young people they CAN get pregnant WITHOUT intercourse! My youngest child was conceived when an "x" partner came to my room uninvited, when I said no to sex, he proceded to "beat-off" -I didn't create a scene because I didn't want to traumatise the two childern asleep in their rooms- well you got it, I now have a 9 year old from that experience and my older girls and their friends KNOW that no kind of "petting" is truly SAFE. Even if you choose to remain a virgin till marraige, if ANY kind of touching, rubbing, stroking is part of your affectionate behavior- USE BIRTH CONTROL!!!
Thank you Susan, I'll get off my soap box now