I need advice on how to seduce a guy cause i really really suck at it. Whenever a guy is attracted to me, I get really nervous and clam up and have a hard time reciprocating the flirtation. I feel like I've missed out on so many opportunities to hook up with guys because they think that I don't want to do anything with them when really I just need them to initiate. More specifically, say that a guy has invited me over to his house when we are all alone. I really want to have sex and know that he does too, but I don't know how to throw out those subtle signals that would make him know it was all right to make the first move. I suppose I could always just jump him.. haha, but i really would like to know how women can seduce a guy or whatever it is we are supposed to do to let them know we want to sleep with them. It's really frustrating cause I feel like I have no sex appeal because guys will just lose interest because i don't know how to act at all! I'd appreciate any help I can get!
You're not alone! Many of us are unsure how to appropriately show interest in someone. I'm a guy; I'm totally unsure / scared about how to let a female know I want her without offending, so mostly I keep quiet.
But let me give you my advice.
There are signals you can give to let him know you want him that are short of outright jumping him (though jumping him would likely be seen VERY favorably by him!)
but as far as subtle signals go,
here are some suggestions.....
look deeply into his eyes...
touch his hand or arm....
lean in close....
....or touch wherever you see fit ;)
these are relatively subtle ways to get something started with him.
Relax and enjoy it, don't be nervous, because if the guy is good, he will be so happy and excited that you're wanting him that it will be ok. little stuff doesn't matter.
I know the feeling-trying to idle your engine while you feel like stripping your gears. I was there once.
It's a natural thing for a boy and girl to be together cause when you think about it...it's how we all got here! If you forget about trying to seduce him and just concentrate on just being friends, you will find that everything else simply follows. It would be cold just to have sex and find out that you are just being used. Worse yet, to get knocked up...and he's gone! He may feel you are using him. This feeling of insecurity will eat at you when he's not around.. which I suppose is okay if that's what you want...I never did.
But as time goes on, you will probably look for something more permanent. Someone who loves you deeply and really cares ..it's a wonderful feeling. And add sex on top...WOW! He will be your BEST FRIEND. In this case, you will want this order: friends, lovers, sex. Anytime you rearrange this order, your chances get slim of succeeding in building a relationship.. and this guy may be the one for you. Without a mental connection, the first time you're out of town, he'll be with someone else. Do you see this? A true love will wait for you.
Find out what he likes, what he wants to do in life, what is his dream car, where he likes to shop for clothes and all this kind of stuff. Talk. It's fun. It all makes for good conversation. Cause if this just happens to become the guy you want to hook up with permanently, you will know what he likes or dislikes...and this stuff is important. Trying to build a permanent relationship on pure sex is very similar to building a house without a foundation. You know the rest. Many relationships/ marriages (50%) fail because nobody wants to talk and get to know their partner BEFORE they commit..
Don't rush it...it will happen. It's all part of growing up and dealing with those strong urges. Get to know him. Is he the one or just hanging around? Just be yourself and have patience and please play safe.
You certainly do not need to retire....you are doing a great job aided by insight and experience that no one else has.....I offer only what I feel and nothing more.
You know, and have experienced stuff I never will, and I enjoy reading about it.
The one thing I learned is to respect a woman (read that wife) and keep her fully satisfied. It's so important to me. If I can "paint" a smile on her face every day, my job is done. I'm one lucky guy to have received the same in return for many years..
Like I vowed and take very seriously..."till death we do part". More people should.