Thanks for all the advice! The thing is this.. i don't have an issue with the talking and getting to know a guy. I just don't know how to take it from the next level when I want to because all the guys I know are very considerate of what I would feel comfortable. Right now, I am not looking for a relationship and a committment because I will be moving soon and it doesn't seem right for me at the moment. I have lots of guy friends who I have a good relationship with as far as spending time together and so on. But there is one guy who I am attracted to and we have discussed getting together as more than just friends which I really want to do. THe thing is that even though i've told him it's ok and I would want him to, he doesn't want to make a move without knowing that I am ready. So he basically said that when I got over being so shy and holding back sexually to just let him know. I think it would be incredibly ridiculous to just be hanging out one day and me say "Well, I am ready to have sex now so kiss me and let's get this show on the road"- although it would probably work for him since guys tend to have a hard time picking up hints:) WHat I'm saying is that I'm a pro at the sex thing when it comes to being in a relationship with someone and working up to it. But what about those fun hookups that I've never gotten to have.. I'm missing out on something I really want, which is to have sex with this guy because he thinks I'm not ready.. and the only reason he thinks that is cause I suck at the "come-ons". The other problem is that I joke a lot and so even when we first talked about hooking up, he didn't know whether I was being serious or not.. so I need a way to make him know that I'm not just kidding around. THanks!

No guy is going to have sex with a woman who seems like she is not ready - unless he is a jerk. So you need to either start choosing jerky guys who will have sex with anything that walks - or you need to decide it is ok to be a sexy woman who wants to come-on to guys she is attracted to. There is no special thing you can do different. You just need to learn to accept the person who you are.

And mine is that if you think you suck at getting somebody envolved in a one night stand, it's probably because you're not really ready for it.
The "friend-with-benefits" thing is a lot harder to make work then it seems to be on the surface, and it will certainly change the relationship.
If you really think that's what you want, and you're sure you're ready.
Grab yourself a 12 pack of condoms (available right here!!!) and throw a lip lock on him, he'll figure the rest out on his own, trust me.
Just be sure that's what you want okay.
There's a whole lot of orgasms in a dollars worth of batteries,
and true friends are a lot tougher to come by.