My girlfriend, with her last boyfriend, may have had sex.

She says she doesn't know; he says it did.

BUT she's definate that she didn't feel anything... it would have been her first time; the 'act' only lasted a couple of seconds.

I've been told time and time again that she DEFINATELY would have felt something... is this true?



Rich::

Rich,

Yes, if it was her first time she would have felt something - unless he used a date rape drug and she was passed out. So the guy is either lying - or he is clueless about how sex actually feels - or she is lying.

Why are you questioning her sexual behavior with her ex-boyfriend - did she give you permission to ask him? Why don't you believe her?

If I were in your girlfriends shoes, I 'd be dumping you. Ask me about my previous relationships if you want to know. I will tell you what I want you to know. If you don't believe me - then deal with it. And if I don't want to tell you - deal with it. My sexual history is personal and what I have done before I met you is none of your business.

Sorry if this sounds harsh - but you have done no one does in a good relationship.

Susan

Rich:

Dude, if you are asking about her past sex, that's crossing the line. Why does it matter to you what she did before? Either you're way insecure or are too controlling or both, but any of those are dump-able offenses.

Now if you found out she went and had sex with her ex-boyfriend during your current relationship and this was against what you'd both agreed to, then that's legit to question it.

But if it's her past you're talking about, you have no right to know her private sexual history and interrogating her about it is wrong.

Chill out man.

Nick