i'm having a slight problem knowing if i am orgasiming.. i havent orgasimed with a guy.. and when i do have sex i dont like it.. how do i learn if i am orgasiming.. also when i think i am havin a orgasim i do not get wet.. what am i doing wrong!
You are having more than a slight problem.
You don't like sex - so why are you having it?
You are not going to orgasm without enjoying what you are doing. Orgasm is about pleasure - not something that 'happens". You don't learn to orgasm - you learn to experience pleasure.
And as long as you are not enjoying what is happening - you are not going " to get wet." Wetness comes from being excited and enjoying what is happening.
My guess is the guy you are having sex with is just as inexperienced as you are AND/ OR you are just not ready to have sex yet. So why not give sex a break for awhile longer and just go back to being friends.