Susan,

Brief background on our relationship. She is 21 and a Virgin. I am 23 and have had no problem pleasing any women in my past. This girl is real special to me. We are not planning on have sex. I am the frist guy she has ever 'fouled around' with. She has become a quick learner on what I like and how to stimulate me. My biggest frustrastion is that I can turn her on any time I want, but every time we take things farther she never orgasims. She says that she gets small build ups and releases, but I really do not feel any difference in her vigiana.

I quess my real question would be, how can I have her enjoy the physical part as much as I do?...She enjoys it but does has never had an orgasim.

Adam

Adam, Lots of girls her age enjoy sex, but don't experience orgasm. Since she is a virgin that is even more understandable. Sex is about pleasure - not about orgasms. So focus on the pleasure and the orgasm will come in time.

I don't think you are doing anything wrong. She's just not ready for orgasm yet - maybe her body isn't ready- or her head - or whatever. Orgasms are important to women, but not in the same way they are for men. So just relax.

Susan

Hmmm..i always thought that there isnt a difference when a girl has a vaginal orgasm and the story that the whole vagina convulses and has rythmnic milking action was a myth. Oh am i mistaken in my assumption?

No your assumption is wrong.

Men need to ejaculate to feel as if they have orgasms. The reality is that men do not have to ejaculate to have an orgasm. An orgasm is something that happens inside your head. Ejaculation is the stuff that comes out of your body. The sensation of ejaulation flowing out of you is from I hear a wonderful sensation.

Women on the other hand have lots of different kinds of orgasms. And ejaculation is not necessarily part of it, nor is a vagina that "convulses and has rythmnic milking action" - but both can be. Women are said to have minimally, and I am proof that is it true - vaginal, clitoral, and g-spot orgams. There are similarities between all women's orgasms, but also differences. Some women have vaginas that convulse a little, others a lot, and some not at all.

Also guys when they orgasm usually orgasm pretty much the same - but women orgasm differently depending on the kind of orgasm, the person they are with, how in love they feel at the moment , all kinds of emotional and physical factors that just don't seem to make that much difference to guys.

Hope this helps clear things up.
Susan