Hi there susan!
I'm kind of in a dilema. I've been chatting with this girl from the net and we've had irc sex and phone sex but the thing is i am supposed to meet her over the weekend and although i'm damn excited about it but i am worried that she may have some diseases. She claims she has never had sex and is not planning to but she has met somehting like 11 guys from the net for oral sex so far. Can i contract any disease from getting a blow job?

thanks!

YES! Yes, you can absolutely get a sexually transmitted disease from a blow job or any form of oral sex. She is at bigger risk than you are - but if she has an oral form of gonorhea, syphillis, chlamydia, hepatitis, HIV - etc. she could not know it and pass it onto you. If she has any kind of sore or cut in her mouth (so small you can't see it) she can pass on a disease. If her teeth scrape you or she bites you - that would make it really easy to pass on a disease.

So you have three choices -
1. forget the sex (of any kind) and be safe
2. use a nonlubricated condom or a flavored condom
3. risk your health

Personally given she has been with 11 guys recently for oral sex I would not take the chance with number 3. My guess is that she won't go for the condom ( if she does - bring a couple of flavors) and you won't want to forego the pleasure ---so that puts you in a tight spot.

Please keep safe/safer.

Susan

Just be careful my friend. She's been sucking 11 guys off within a short period of time and she wont let you or any one else do her ???. It just doesnt sound right. JMO of coures. Let us know what happened.

Mmm...well i don't think it was 11 guys in a short time... i suppose like a period of a year or so. She doesnt want to have sex 'cos she's waiting to do it for her marriage. It's a girl thing i suppose. Man...i can't tell you on how tempting it is...but gosh...susan's remark sure is scary! Never expected that the mouth could be so wrought with danger!

Girls who are having sex with 11 guys in one year and are waiting to have sex until they are married are deluding them self if they think of themselves as virgins.

Virginity is not simply a stick penis in hole and virginity is gone. Virginity is supposed to be about sharing a special extraordinary experience. A girl who is having sex with guys she is meeting on the internet - even if it is just oral sex - has lost her "real" virginity.

I think it is perfectly ok for a girl/woman to decide to keep her virginity until marriage if that is what she wants. I also think it is perfectly OK for a girl/woman to decide she is physically and mentally mature enough to have sex before marriage. But to be orally sexually indiscriminate and to claim virginity is not really understanding what that choice is all about.

The reason people think of virginity as never having vaginal sexual intercourse is that there is this piece of membrane/skin that covers the opening to the vagina and if it is ruptured/perforated it bleeds. ("pop her cherry") Long ago on wedding nights bloody sheets were used as proof that the bride was a virgin. There is nothing that can prove a woman has not had oral sex, or anal sex, but she can theoretically prove she has not had vaginal sex. So virginity came to be thought of as an intact hymen - not a woman who has not had sex of any kind as the word was originally meant ( and in reality still means.)

Nowadays girls break their hymens riding bikes, riding horses, doing gymnastics, inserting tampons - so bloody sheets are a thing of the past. But we still think that little piece of skin is so very important as a symbol of virginity.

So now we have girls and young women thinking they are virgins because the guy puts his penis in only a little way - or when they have had oral sex with relative strangers 11 times, but just no vaginal intercourse, - or when they only have anal sex---------------OK---------so maybe technically in some people's view they are still virgins, but to claim that they are saving something for marriage??? Their innocence is gone and that is really what virginity is all about - being innocent to sex.

So if you have read this far ----and you haven't had sex yet ------I think that is a great decision to make. And if you have decided you are ready to be sexual - and decided what kind of sex you were ready for - that's OK too. If you want to have oral sex and aren't ready for vaginal sex - I'm OK with that. Just be honest with yourself and with others.

Susan

You just about covered it all. I have known woman that did every thing under the sun and then some, But wont have vaginal sex. I dont know who there trying to fool.

Hi guys!
Well, i went to meet that girl yesterday, heyy...i couldn't help it! I knew i shouldnt have even bothered but somehow the little one can be all powerful! But thankfully we didnt do anything, went out for lunch so there wasn't much we could do. She did reach over and like...kinda teased me and more or less hinted that i passed and if there next time we meet, i'd get some action but after coming back i was kinda shocked by the whole experience. Geez...i really wonder how all those other guys do it without any qualms. Thanks alot for your info, it was ..mmmm a lil toooo descriptive but that is what helped in my decision. Thanks once again!

Glad you're home safe and sound. Is there going to be a second date????

Susan

There was nothing wrong with meeting her, I would have done the same thing. Except you have to be very careful. I have had cyber sex with a few womwn my self, including sending pictures of each other showing everything we have. Then met some of them. It certainly is an experience. But most of all, you have to have trust with each other. The pictures that we shared was only between us. Not the whole world.