I have a question for you as a reader of the forums alot of these tips have helped and owuld like to thank you for your responding to everymessage and support u bring its much appriciated from someone who just reads, But now its my turn to ask a question.
Me and my g'f have been with each other for 5 months now comming 6 we have had sex b4 but its about twice a month time constraints hinder this with her still 17 and at school and my work im just gone 22, we have a health sex and relationship, but we had sex last month and as always i wore a condom and never cum in her, we both took that decision but she is not on the pill either, her cycle was ment to start on the 1st but still nothing atm, we are both a bit worried but she also has alot of stress atm, from parents and school work also she went to gym the day b4 she was went to start and was having a heavy work out more than normal and was very stressed that weekend.
I would like to know from your knowlage what do u think the chances are of her being pregnant and if not then us stressing isnt gonna help her come on, also how long would you say b4 we should get a test and go see the doctor together.
But we have both spoken and if she is we both have agreed thata termination would be the best at this time, i love her and hopefully i am being as understanding as possible as i would never wish to hurt her in anyway.
If she us under stress that could easily delay it. BUT, the heavy workout would have likely started it. So I'd say you are at about 50/50 with today being the 6th.
If she doesn't start by Saturday, if I were her I would take a pregnancy test on Sunday first thing in the morning and see what it says. If it is positive, she is surely pregnant. If it is not postive she should wait another week and if still no period take another test or go see the doctor.
Cross your fingers.
As soon as she knows for sure she is not pregnant - don't you think it might be time to think about another form of birth control? Birth control pills, a patch, a diaphram?
Condoms are a good form of birth control, but pulling out is not. If you really aren't ready to be parents - you need to take the next step.
yes this is smthing we have spoken about and for sure will be taking up on so thank you for your advice, maybe fate but shes actully started her period now, and we have taken the adult decision to never have sex again lol nope just kidding but we will have to as u say take 2 forms of birth controle and will do in future.
You mention pulling out is not a good good, doesthis go for the fact ever though still waring a condom which i do everytime and only slowley pull out b4 i get to that point cause she usually finish with 4 play for both of us, is this due to pre cum can still get though the condom somehow?
Anyway susan thank you again for your help and advice on this matter and will be doubleing up on protection.
Withdrawing with a condom on is good. But when are you putting the condom on? Are you putting it on just before you are going to start vaginal intercourse - or when you start getting intimate.
Precum- just one drop - can get her pregnant. So if you are waiting until just before- you could be risking pregnancy more than you know.
If you put the condom on as soon as you start - then when that first drop of precum emerges you have your condom on- you are as safe as you can be using condoms. But always remember, condoms are only 97% effective when used perfectly- sometimes they break - or slide off accidentally.
You need to think through seriously what level of risk you want to take - and make a good decision for the two of you.
When me and my old gf were going out, the same thing happened to us. Her period was almost two weeks late. It really was a rude awakening b/c we thought she was definitly pregnant. We were being stupid as hell with sex and this was a good way to get the lesson on what kind of consequences there were. After that incident she went on the pill. I would highly advise it, if not solely for ease of mind, it also improved our sex lives b/c there wasn't the constant worry of getting pregnant with using only condoms.
thanks for the advice and will take all of it 100% so yeah i was putting it on just b4 intercourse but will put it on as soon as now, thanks for your help,
again more good advice yea after she has finished her exams i think its something shes going to do we have spoken over the matter ad she feels confortable about it only worried about weight gaining thats a good point susan does it make u gain weight, to me it dont bother me but shes a bit worried about it, but again thanks and thanks mike to.
Yes, birth control pills can make you gain about 5 pounds, but pregnancy makes you gain more. A woman who has been pregnant, even if she has an abortion has a hormonal change in her body and however much weight she was going to gain from taking birth control pills she will gain from the pregnancy.