I've never really made out with a guy before, and everytime i get the chance too i turn away because i'm scared that they will think i'm inexperienced, and not very good at it. Any tips for getting over my fear, and seeming a little more comfortable doing this? I know you normally respond with answers saying that it shouldn't matter to the guy if your not too great, and i understand that...but i still want to feel comfortable,and not be holding back.

Audrey,

Do what we all do-- practice kissing the back of your hand, roll a mouth full of grapes in your mouth so you exercise your tongue, practice sucking on a hot dog, use a pillow as a pretend body, and just use your imagination.

It really isn't as hard as you think. When you get with somebody and the passion is there- the body takes over and it knows what to do. Don't worry, I know you wil do just fine.

Susan

Hey Audrey, i used to have the exact same problem as you, but I got over my fear, by just doing it once.. after that me and my boyfriend did it longer and more often so I got more comfortable. But how I really got comfortable was.. I practiced with my best friend, she really didnt do it a lot either-- it might seem nasty to some people, but we both arent bi so it doesn't really matter.-- So, if you have a good friend, I suggest that, and then do it with your man. It'll seem a lot easier, cuz you know your friend won't say your bad! later!

--kendal

What exactly what did you do ????.

""but I got over my fear, by just doing it once.. after that me and my boyfriend did it longer and more often"" -----
What did you do with your boyfriend ???? Please explain.

Did you have oral sex with your girlfriend ???. for peactice ???.

the guy is probably as nervous as you. the first time i made out i was scared.

Big John,

You are going way too far with this--when have you considered oral sex as part of the first time you make out???? Audrey is taking about the first time - the very first make out session did you go beyond kissing and feeling?

Susan

Woahh!! Girls kissing other girls? Seriously, can a girl kiss another girl and say it's totally not gay? How does one be so certain? What if a man was to kiss a man, can that be taken as a gay act or just practising? The fact is that one can even consider kissing a partner of a same sex shows some sort of sexual preference. May not mean she's totally bi but may have an inclination. Given the right situation i would say a great number of us would be bi or gay.

Yes, I think a girl can kiss another girl and not say it is totally gay. Kissing is kissing- and if you want to find out what a kiss is like and practice - it doesn't really matter if the mouth is male or female. A mouth is a mouth is a mouth.

And even if it were gay or bi- so what?
Susan

dont worry about it, practice on your hand or seomthing, but once you get going it feels like uve known how to do it forever.