I've known my best friend for years and also his girl. I know it's one of those stories, we have all heard them all but gosh i do find myself so attracted to her. Sometimes when we go out as a group i cant help but take notice of her smell and i call her at times and we have great chats. I know i shouldnt be attracted to her but i cant and no amount of masturbating is helping me control myself. She is coming down for a visit over the weekend and i am supposed to bring her around for this visit. Why am i such an animal?!

You are not an animal. There is an enormous difference between what goes on inside your head and what you do. And as long as you respect the boundaries of this being his girl and not yours - you are exactly what makes us human.

There is no way you can stop being turned on by her smell, or needing to masturbate to thought of her, or just fantasizing about her --lots of us do that about people we know and know we will never have sex with. I used to sit at business meeting with a man who had the most amazing fingers - long and thick and I imagined what he could do to me with them. Every time I was with him I would find myself distracted by just looking at his fingers - so I had to force myself not to look. I run into him once in awhile - and I stil get turned on by fingers. Turn-on is out of our control. Our behavior is not. So just remember she is his girl and act accordingly

Good luck!
Susan

Yes, i know what you mean. Everything about her is just so perfect from her hair, her smile, laugh, body and the way her bracelet tinkles as she moves. Damn! I get turned on just by typing it all out. I hope i'd be able to control myself and wont do anything stupid. Sometimes sexuality can be such a pain.

Hiya!
Well i must say i initially i did very well in controlling myself but it just seems that i'm always given oppourtunity to make a mistake.
She came down for a visit and i went to pick her up from the bus station and she put her bag into the car. Later we met up my friend (her BF) and went to the shopping centre. I went back to the car and i couldnt help but open her bag and went through her stuff. I knew i shouldnt do it but i kept rationalising that it's not harming anyone and at least i get to know a little part of her. Sheesh...why do i always lose to myself?

What you did didn't hurt her because she or he didn't find out. But if either of them had -you might lose one or both of them as friends.

Stop being immature (yes that is what this is) and take control of yourself. You can think whatever you want, but you ARE IN CONTROL of your BEHAVIOR.

She's not your girl - you can keep wishing it - but you have got to stop acting stupid or you wil regret it big time!

Susan

You're right of course, i know all of this too but didnt quite think of it of being immature. Guess the best way is for me to stay away. Try not to put myself in situations that could lead to abuse. I really need to get a GF of my own!
;)

Why not ask her to help you get a girlfriend. Her friends are more likely to be like her. Double date?