help!
I've been with boyfriend for over a year and he can't cum during sex or when i give him bjs. i feel really bad that i can't please him because he always manages to please me. he's only cummed maybe 3 times out the many times we had sex. he usually has to mastuubate in order for him to cum. i want him to cum while i try to please him, what can i do??

Mya,

Stop thinking it is your fault and that you are not pleasing him. There are lots of men - especially younger men who have this same problem. There is likely nothing you can do - because you are doing nothing wrong.

If your boyfriend masturbates - he should not masturbate the day before and the day you plan to have sex.

You should use lubrication- the slippier the sex the more friction and the greater pleaure for him.

You should stop worrying about whther he is going toejaculate and just worry if it feels good to him - that is what really counts.

Susan

If you two enjoy doing it together, it shouldnt matter if he can cum or not just as long as it satisfies the both of you.

I had a b/f once that was cut and the only way he could get his rocks off was for him to jerk off and even that took a lot of work

My buddy has the same problem. The last time he had sex with a girl, he told me that they must have had sex for about an hour but he just couldn't cum or reach orgasm. I don't think he masterbates. What I was thinking was that maybe his body isn't used to having orgasms so when he has sex it just doesn't happen.

Lots of sexually experienced men have trouble ejaculating. Performance anxiety. Soem guys can't get it up - and others can't get it down.

Nice to see you posting again Clay!

Susan

 

Yeah mastribations a real spoiler how can enyone compete with a hand... its lighting fast and requires allot less exersize
Susans right if you can leave a day or a week n he might just cum in a jiffy =D

Ga! im with this chick and its totaly sucks I made her cum like 6 times and im still not cuming
I used to think it was my lack of ability that was the problem but I can see now that I do have the ability the real problem is that I just cant cum

I have heare about this problem several times and a lot of guys claim that they have cured it with a simple process called foreskin restoration.
It seems that after the glans and what is left of the inner foreskin in circumcised men gets several layers of callus after being exposed to open air and rubbing aginst clothing for years.
The layer of callus gets thick enough that the glans "head" and what used to be the inner foreskin actually change color from a sort of pink to flesh tone. as this happens the nerves that sense touch become buryed under this layer of callus "dead skin cells" as that happens sensitivity decreases.
A lot of men report that after several months of keeping the head and inner foreskin covered and moist with the process of foreskin restoration the layers of callus are simply shed much the same way that a snake sheds it's skin and at that point a lot of sensitivity returns and men are able to better control when they cum.
This is way out of the mainstream however thousands of men have claimed results by doing this. If in doubt read up on foreskin restoration a bit there is tons of information on the internet about the subject.

Good luck
Marc

That makes sense to me. Males were born with a foreskin for a reason, to protect the head of the penis along with the nerve sensitivity. Thankfully, I wasn't circumcized, and can easily have orgasms.

Im not cercumsized either maybe condoms arent as good when your uncercumsized or susans right im just fuct up in the head and need help =P

Circumcised or not circumcised has nothing to do with how well condom works and feels. You are not fucked up - but it is all in your head.

Susan

i havent been able to cum yet, im 15 i havent mesured, is there something wrong with my cock?

Not a thing is wrong. You are just young. Give it time.

Lots of guys do not ejaculate the first time until they are 18 or 19.  Be patient.

Susan