once you get up to the point in a relationship and are willing to give/recieve oral sex...what should a guy to do the female in the relationship exactaly...suck it, slip the tounge in...what?...need some help here!

ASK HER. If you are that far in the relationship you should be able to talk about sex . Women like different things. If you can't talk about it- you aren't ready to do it.

But here's a clue- oral sex is about her clitoris- not her vagina.

Susan

i know, you are by far right when you say that i should ask her, but i have, and she doesnt seem to know...i just ask...is here better, like this, or is this better like this...she will simply say the first one...she wont be like, the first one, but to the left more and up or something like that...makes it very hard to find he clit, not know much about the female atonomy..

Blue,

So she is telling you. So listen and believe her. If she tells you she likes it at the first place than that is where she likes it. A clitoris is not so hard to find- you probably just don't know you are feeling it.

Susan

i guess you are right, but thats what i am asking, what is it that i am looking for? maybe her clit is up more or something and she just doesnt want to say that becasuse she doesnt know herself? what is it that i should be feeling in order to know that it is her clit?

once i find it while fingering her, i should be able to find it while i am "eating out" aswell right? since it doesnt move? what do i do when i eat out though, i saw that you said a tounge should not act like a penis, so should i suck, and lick the clit? or what?

Blue,

Obviously you are very young - so is your girlfriend- so her clitoris is probably still very small. You are probably feeling it and don't even know it. It looks just like a very very tiny penis. The end is no bigger than the size of a pea.

It sounds to me like both of you need to slow down and learn more about your bodies and how they work. You need to learn about hers as much as she needs to learn about yours.

Susan