I am pretty sure what the clitoris is, but then again I am quite confused. I am confused because you say it's like a small penis. Is it a bone of some sort, is it close to where you pee, b/c if so I am right. When me and my guy are having sex he always rubs what seems to be the clitoris and if he goes to hard it almost hurts, but feels good. Is it in the middle of the whole vagina. I am so very confused.
There is no bone in the penis and there is no bone in the clitoris. What makes both of them hard is blood - blood flows into the penis/clitoris it has no where to go- so it gets hard.
Different vulvas (outside of vagina) look different - so my guess is he is either rubbing your clitoris or he could be rubbing your urethra ( pee hole) - both feel good and both hurt if rubbed too hard.
Get out a mirror and look! The clitoris looks like a penis with a head the size of the end of a q-tip/ small pea/large pearl.