Susan, hello I am a 25/m and I am having a serious problem. When my girlfiend and I have sex I cum in anywhere from 4 to 15 minutes and once it goes down it is a very long time before I can get back up. My girlfriend tells me that it is ok that i cum that fast but I know this is a lie she is telling me, she is just trying to be a good girlfiend to me. There were times before when I would cum fast and I would see the expression in her face and she would tell me that if I could have went just 5 minutes longer she would have came. Susan this is so much of a problem to me because just 2 years ago when we would have sex If I would have cum fast I would have still been hard or just thought about the act of sex and would have been hard for at least another hour. I thought about trying viagra but is it hard for a man to go to the doctor and get diagnosed for a prescription for this. And do you think this is what I need to do. and also we do all the other things like foreplay and oral sex to try to help this situation. This is making me feel like a loser in the bedroom when at one time this is where I felt like I was a champion.

Ramone,

First - nothing could be easier than to get a prescription for Viagra. Your doctor will very likely be happy to give you a free sample to try it out.

Second, age could be catching up with you. Men are in their prime in terms of innate sexual ability ( what their penis can do) at 21 - from then on it is downhill.

And last - yes- by all means give oral sex a try. A man who is good at oral sex is a true champion - no penis can accomplish what a good tongue can.

Susan

Hey Ramone, I wouldn't recommend that you try viagra just yet, I mean your only 25 and viagra is meant for old geisers who are nearly impotent. You said that you cum too fast, right. Try doing what I do (I'm 23 in case your wondering). When you feel like your just about to reach orgasm and ejaculation start to constrict your pubic muscles and resist ejaculation. It feels much better and you should be able to have sex much longer. It's basically having orgasms without ejaculations and its much cleaner. Give it a try.

Clay,

You are right about trying kegel exercises, but wrong about Viagra. Viagra is for anyone who needs it - it is a girl's best friend!

Kegel exercises: when you pee, stop, count to 10, then pee a bit more.
Stop, count to 10, then pee a bit more- do this until the pee is gone.

When you get good at this you can count to 15 or 20 or more. The higher you count the stronger your muscles are.

Susan

I'm simply AMAZED at how well Viagra works...it makes you last longer and you have more control. You can now hold back for quite a while. At this time, you are bigger than ever and she will like find it very pleasurable. However if you still ejaculate fast, you'll come right back again quick. It is about pleasing a woman as well as yourself.
The only problem you will find is determining what dosage you need. But it will be fun finding out. For a normal man, a 100 mg is like a ballistic missile and you could be erect for 3 hours. PHEWWW !
By all means, go to site viagrastories.com and see what many men say about dealing with minor side effects. If you get a prescription for Viagra, shop around and find the best price. Don't be shy about it...everybody is using it. No need to suffer with premature ejaculation anymore...it is a recognized health problem and a good doctor will help you.

Like Susan says, Viagra is for anyone who needs it and qualifies health wise.
By the way, if you are referring to older men as "old geysers", realize this.... a third of your life is already over.
Politely I ask you to develop your respect for older people cause some day you'll be there. We are all getting older.
True... older people have wrinkles, move a little slower and have aches and pains, but they have a wealth of knowledge and experience to impart to you....mostly for free if you are interested. Many of the paths that you will blindly stumble down in your life will be wrong and cost you time, money,and maybe your health.....chances are you will marry and get divorced, have to work till you are 68 and will retire with next to nothing...all that could be avoided by listening and talking with a person you refer spitefully to as an "old geyser".....someone who has already been there and cleared the path..... even just one stock market or 401k tip could be worth thousands or even millions! Think about this.

I think I love you! ; )

Susan

I was just joking when I referred to old people as "old geysers." Apparently, some of you can't take a joke. For the record, I do respect the wisdom of old people. As a matter of fact, old people as well as little kids seem to like my presence. I have also met some very mean old grouches that have left a bad impression of old people on me. I guess its because they know that their better years have long since past and now its pretty much downhill until they die. Thank heavens for viagra!

Clay,

You got a lot to learn about getting old. It's not all downhill - some of it is better - lots better. Like knowing what I really want out of life at 30. Like having the best sex of my life after 40. Like having the job I always dreamed up at 50. Who knows what it wil be when I hit 60.

Susan

Viagra is intended for men experiencing sexual difficulties such as impotency, premature ejaculation etc. You mentioned that if you took 100mg you could be erect for 3 hours or so. If that is true, then that could do serious damage to cartilage in your penis.

Clay
I'm editing this - because the information you give here is dead wrong. First cartilage/cartilige is bone and there is no bone in your penis. A penis gets erect from blood flow. And the directions to Viagra state you should consult a doctor if you stay erect 4 hours- so obviously 3 hours is still within safe guidelines.
Susan

Sorry if the advise I gave in the previous post was incorrect. I just remember watching a sexual education program that said if you have an erection for 3-5 hours (I don't remember the exact time frame) or longer then it can do serious damage to the blood vessels in your penis. I know the penis is designed to become engorged with blood when aroused (naturally or through performance enhancing drugs like viagra). The blood is supposed to "inflate" the penis and then leave after sex, thus deflating it. Besides, who really wants to have intercourse for longer than 1 hour straight anyway. There are better things to do with your lives.

We accept your apology. But you are still learning. Men peak around 19 and then start declining sexually. Men sometimes are afraid to admit that they just aren't as good as they used to be. But it is a recognized fact. So, Viagra is just not for older folks...it is a way for any man who qualifies, who is not as good as he used to be, to become active again. Viagra is a way of helping you to COMPLETELY satisfy a woman...the most IMPORTANT thing you'll ever do!
Nobody wants intercourse for an hour...that's right. But, having foreplay and then intercourse for an hour or longer is the best time of your life. The foreplay is almost more fun than the intercourse, and the older you are, the longer you can have foreplay without "boiling over". Something for you to look forward to.
Pretty good for an old geiser, huh?