OK I hope I have the right idea about this website, so here it goes. Theres this guy I'm really into but I really confuesed because at the end of July there was a staff bus trip that we went on cos we both work at the same place but we don't work together (he's a lifeguard and I'm a swimming instructor) so anyway he was like dancing really close and there was touching on both parts(not our body parts) and from what I gather he really liked it, I did to. I'm a really nerves person when it comes to talking to people I like more then friends. I was getting it in the ear from mates to just go talk to him but I don't think I did, I can't remember. Towards the end of the night a friend of mine just said go for it "go grab his nuts and stick your tongue down his throat" I did the first one and that was fine, Then he got sick so looked after him the rest of the way then I took him home to his place. Over the few days I heard for someone we both work with that he was just going to go for it with me, and his friends told I liked him, and all the usual stories, this is where I start getting REALLY confuesed. I called him about a week later and we talked for a while and that was all good and he said he would talk to me a couple days later at work. We didn't say a thing to each other. Then that night we txtd for like an hour. His best friend said he would talk to him for me and find out if hes interested in me, which I think is really cool. Yesterday he was talking to "John" (I don't want to name names) and he was looking at me and smiling then looking away again while I was teaching, I got told to call him so I did but he was busy and he said he would call back but he didn't and I don't mind cos I know he can get busy cos hes at uni and hes got swimming comps. this weekend. I think I just need to know if I should keep going after him or forget about him, I don't want to 4get about cos his such a nice guy when you talk to him alone. Do you think he doesn't talk to me at work cos we're in front of other staff or does he not like me?? Please help every time I see him my stomach jumps and I feel sick. If you can give me some advice that be cool, thanks for your time AM :)

Different people have different ideas about what kind of social behavior is ok. He might think it is not OK to have a soclal conversation while he is at work. He might think it is not ok to have a social telephone conversation at work. That is actually very smart of him if he takes his job seriously.

He might feel self-conscious/ shy about talking to you in front of other people. He might feel really embarrassed about you taking care of him after he was sick. Did he get sick because he was drunk? - drunk people sometimes do things they would not do when they are not drunk - so maybe he is not so shy when he is not drunk.

If one of the first things you did to let him know you were intrerested in him was to grab his crotch - he may also be worried you want to move in on a relationship fast. He may be someone who likes to move a little slower than that. That is a pretty bold move when you haven't even kissed yet. I think your friends were giving you bad advice. He might be scared or shy to make a move.

He obviously knows you are interestd in him. So now it is your turn to just wait and see what he does. I think if you push him to hard he might run - so just be patient.

Susan

what i would say is that you should talk to him about it...build up some courage...you can do it!!! my boyfriend was like that at first too...but if you talk to him, i'm sure he'll understand, and if you have already-talk to him about it again! well, i wish you the best of luck!!!
love,
kris

The phone calls wern't to him at work they were to his home number. He knows I am interested in him and I know he's not a shy person cos I've know him for as long as I've liked him (nearly a year) He hadn't been drinking when this all started but then he just let go and went for gold. I wouldn't have normally put my hand there, but I was to neverous to kiss him and it just felt easier. Why is this so hard!?

If it is too hard - than it must not be worth it. If it is just hard - then good things you sometimes have to work for. Relationships are rarely easy - it is not like on TV where magic just happens. It usually takes month and months of work.

So if you think he is worth it- hang in there. If not - move on.
Susan

I don't think grabbing his crotch was the brightest of ideas. If some girl I didn't know came out and grabbed my crotch out of knowhere, I would think she was either horny or trying to molest me. I get kind of nervous as well when I see someone I might like. You just have to get passed that and tell him/her before its too late. Good luck with him.

basically maybe grabing his crotch was'nt a good idea Not to be bad but have u ever thought he might think your abit of a Slag (NOT SAYING U R)
but u might of gave the wrong impression maybe cos u were so nervous!! and the reason he keeps lookin at u is cos he wants to pick up where u left off and probley hoping your make the first move again. Now if u like one night stands thats fine go for it but if u dont tell him that that night was a little weird and u dont normally act like that and u would like to get to know him? now my ideas might sound stupid but u HAVE TO DO SOMETHING or u might as well take a picture hang it in your room and blow kiss's at it cos u aint gettin any closer really??? now get some DUTCH CURRAGE or some GIRL POWER (as we call it now) put on a really sexy out fit and get out there!!!!! And by the way babe there is more then one why to tell a man u like him besides grabing at his DICK ok