how do u finger a girl? when u get inside her pussy

Most fingering isn't inside - it is outside. And if you have to ask you aren't ready to go inside. Feel all the parts of her outside sexual parts. expecially her clitoris. See what kind of touch she likes and doesn't like. Get to know the outisde of her body really really well - then maybe you will be ready to explore the magic inside.

Susan

Work the whole area inside and out. Silde a little finger around the a-hole. If it turns her on, keep going. Here's my delema. I have had a husband for 12 years and for the first time the other day, I did the fingering on his back side. He emenesly enjoyed it, but is still freaked out. He didn't know it,but he got a little bit of a toy up there too. He is completely spooked. How can I tell him that it's ok and was much needed different fun????

Helen,

Men are by and large extremely homophobic. They fear if they enjoy anything anally oriented they might be gay. So reassure him that he is a man when he is enjoying it and that wil help him want it again.

Susan

" tell him that it's ok and was much needed different fun????"

& that it's between the two of you. Tell him you liked his reaction. You like to make him feel good. Dare you to try a little tongue! Wow I'm gettin' excited.
Guy

Helen, explain to your husband that it is perfectly fine for straight men to be anally stimulated. I like a little anal play after having a shower. I am perfectly straight and use a dildo occasionally. Try this on him next before you have sex. Take some hand cream and rub it on his asshole and see how he likes it. I'm sure he will love it. Once he is comfortable with it, then you can try sex toys with him. I would also suggest having a shower together so that your both nice and clean before. Good luck.

Annonymous - this is a pretty silly post - but I suppose it does no harm...

Clay seeing as you have never had sex you say you are waiting for the right person but i have a strange mind. I am fairly bright. When i am confronted with something i analize it inside and out and think of hundreds of possible out comes and think of the percentage of chance that that is going to happen. I then narrow it down to the most probible. I have also discovered that seeing as no one here knows you that you are one of these 3 things:

25% chance you are some kid because you act less mature than me and i am 14. Theres only a 25% chance as you have a dildo so you may be over 18 as you would needed to be to get it but i am sure you could of found a way around that.

37.5% chance you are telling the truth and are a virgin waiting for the write person who is twenty'ish. A immature childish virgin.

37.5% chance you are a closet homosexual.

So there you have it. Now im off to calculate the different things that could of happened with that asteroid.

I'm sort of flattered that you would actually take time and calculate the odds of who I am. I'll tell you how right you are, since you bothered to take the time. I am 23 years old and still a virgin. I was surprised that people didn't laugh when I first said that. I am waiting for the right girl to have sex with and maybe marry. I think I have found her, but I just don't know how to tell her. I am not a closet homosexual as I have no sexual feelings towards men. There you have it, Clay in a nutshell.

Very well

Clay may post some "immature" posts, but at least he knows how to use uppercase letters.

i can't believe no one answered this guy's question. i mean, he got a quick brush off at best and was redirected to the clit. how we got to male assplay from that is beyond me. the fingerbang is an adolescent classic and one of the easiest moves to master. it's also a great word, and highly underused. do not underestimate the fingerbang. it's a great compliment to any oral or masturbation techniques and can easily satisfy on its own.

first, one finger. don't rush the deuce. i find it works best with palms up, index finger slightly crooked...this tends to fit the natural shape of the vagina. it also allows you to use your thumb to stimulate the clit, but that's advanced fingerbanging. lets concentrate on the basics.

what you are looking for here is the 'g-spot.' this is actually easier to find than it is to describe...what you are looking for is a dense fleshy spot on the inside of the vagina, about 2-3 inches in, on upper side. meaning towards the belly, not the butt. its easiest to find if you insert (palms up) and make a 'come hither' motion with the finger. if you feel a hard, almost puckered ring of flesh, back off. that's the cervix, or the entrance to the uterus. no one likes their cervix fingered.

when you do find the g-spot, again, be gentle...use the tip and bottom of your finger to massage it, starting slowly and working up speed...feel your partner's reaction (the buck of the hips is a good sign) and just go with it. if she is wet enough, go with the second finger. use a swishing, back and forth motion with the fingers like you were making them walk..or something like that. like scissors. that's always a popular one.

now, if this is going well...you can always add to it...if you know the clit well enough, go for the thumb approach. oral stimulation can be a bit cumbersome, but pays off. usually, going for the clit during this requires you to back off on the fingerbang a bit. it is possible for her to get over stimulated and not end up going anywhere.

remember, never rush the fingerbang. work up to it. if you really can't help it and need to fingerbang as soon as possible, at least suck on the infiltrating finger first to moisten it. thats mandatory. sucking said finger afterwards is optional, however i've never had a girl who didnt think it was hot as hell to see you lick off her juices.

i hope this helps, and happy fingerbanging.

Excellent...........You're so right, it's an under estimated skill that every one should use more.
Guy