If my girlfriend is pregnant, and we don't want our parents to know.. is there a place we can goto somewhere like "birth-prevention" center? Is there such place where teenagers can goto (secretly, without notifying their parents) to kill the embryo? And aren't there other ways to prevent the birth rather than just abortion?

Your IP address says you live in California - if that is true you do not need to have a parent's permission to have an abortion. No, once a person is pregnant the only way to stop being pregnant is to have an abortion.

Susan

about the places like the northeast? i'm from new jersey...but honestly if do get pregnant i wouldnt want to leave kill the baby, but i was just wondering about our state. i think we have a law against it...am i correct?

i just learned from your site how to use a condom properly, and now im worried and with a few questions,.

we had sex a week ago with protection but when i placed the condom on him i didnt squeeze the tip so the air would leave the condom. when he was inside me, he didnt ejaculate but when he took his penis out the tip that had the air at one point didnt. so what does this mean?? is that a way of saying that there was a tiny whole and the precum might have come through it and leaving the tip with no bubble...or maybe does it mean that when he was pusshing in and out the air in the tip was pushed to the base of his penis and out? i dont know susan. now i'm a little worried i wish i had read these directions before.

Clay,
Read the message again. Nothing is being said about having an abortion - what is being asked is what if. It is good to know what will happen before you need to know so that you can be smarter about your behavior. Otherwise your message includes good things people need to talk about BEFORE they have sex.
Susan


Just make damn sure that you and your girlfriend understand that after you commit abortion, there is no turning back. If she is definitely pregnant then you two should talk it over rationally, making sure that you don't want to give it up for adoption. But if you did that then your parents would certainly find out. Some people will judge you harshly for committing abortion. Some even consider it murder. When it comes down to it though, its your own body and your own gametes, so destroying it is your choice.

Kelly,

I have no way of knowing what actually happened - but my best guess is that air was forced into the condom during sex. Now you know how to use them ---tell your friends! I'm glad you brought that up because it is one of the biggest mistake teens make about using condoms.

Susan

In New Jersey you do not need permission from your parents to have an abortion.

Susan