Hi, lately I have been having problems getting/keeping an erection. When I am with a girl and in the mood I will start to become erect, and then I will find myself becoming distracted and/or nervous when she notices - I'm not sure why. Soon after, the erection disappears which can be quite embarassing and disappointing. My last serious girlfriend (we separated about 6 months ago) was a virgin (as was i) and did not want to have sex without being married even though I did. I think this might have something to do with my problem because she would get upset with me if I was in the mood and hinted toward sex. I have lost my virginity and have had sex with several girls since then but I noticed my problem is getting worse. Now, whenever I become intimate with a girl and start to get an erection, I start to worry that the erection will go away and she will be disappointed. Me thinking this obviously ruins the mood for me. The good part is that I know it is psychological (no problems when masturbating). The bad part is that I'm not sure how to overcome it.

Any ideas? All help is greatly appreciated.
AJ

You are right - it is all in your head. Distraction is a killer for erections. SO you have to learn to not be so distractable and then you wil have noproblem. Easier than it sounds- I know! Goodluck!

Susan

Just try to be more comfortable and not get distracted from the task at hand, then you should be able to control your erections more effectively like I do. Strengthening your PCB muscles through kegal exercises might help too. I wouldn't go out and buy viagra just yet.

You may be nervous ( I know that feeling) which makes you nervous the next time, but you could try C*o*b*r*a ( a no prescription natural sex enhancer) available at a nature food store near you. (I spelled it this way because a computer may key on this word, and link to this message, which with respect to you, really should remain private.)
It may help you to restore your confidence to get you thru this. It was rated as one of the top NATURAL enhancers by an online survey. Do a search online it and see.
Follow instructions and don't take too much. It's fairly cheap too around $17. It goes to work in 30 minutes to an hour.

Nice post Clay!

it's Gods way of telling you to wait until marriage? If everybody waited we wouldn't have near the problems of STDs, unwanted pregnancies, abortion holocaust...etc. God's pretty smart.
Guy

Nice post Guy. I just wish there were more people that supported similar views, but that isn't going to happen and I'm not going to try to force anyone anymore.

Your certainly are entitled to your opinion.
However, there is no reason that 2 adults shouldn't enjoy each other's company as long as no one is offended. You shouldn't have to cower in the corner or think that you can't perform because you "think" that a supreme being is present or some mystical superstition guides your life.
Sex goes on all the time; all around the world....it's how MOST of us got here. What is really important with adults is that the unwritten rules of common sense, safety, responsibility, and cleanliness are respected and observed. I'd say my original post makes more logical sense.

I don't think I would attribute a mild case of nervousness to divine intervention, but what do I know?

To respond to the question at hand, I agree thats its really difficult to stop unwanted thoughts from getting into your head. My suggestion would be to work on your confidence, just keep reassuring yourself that you won't lose your erection, and believe in yourself that you can do it. That always works for me for other, non sexual stuff, so hopefully it can apply to your situation too! I personally would feel uncomforatble using medication, but if its a big problem and you really can't get by without sex, then I guess its good solution.