I'm going to assume that you are female dizzycurls, since men generally don't use vibrators. It's possible that your body isn't ready to start having orgasms yet. Don't worry though, once you start having them, then you'll be able to have many of them like Susan. You see, men normally ejaculate once after masterbating and then are done for a while. Women on the other hand, either have few or no orgasms or many (multiple) orgasms. Keep on stimulating your clitoris with your fingers/vibrator and you may want to try a dildo as well. Susan will give you some more advice when she returns.
I started having sex when I was 17, and it took me a long time to start having orgasms. I know it's frustrating because it was for me as well. I also started using a vibrater about 5 years ago. I don't use it all the time but I never get an orgasm, but it really takes the edge off when I don't want to sleep around. This could be inaccurate but I have heard that women who really get off on masturbating have a harder time having having orgasms with guys because they know where to hit their own spots but the guy doesn't know where to hit them. So sometimes I'm glad that I don't have orgasms masturbating because I really enjoy male company. Any disbutes to this info welcome!
Some girls mature earlier...some later. I'm sure you will experience these soon.
There is another possible reason. You may be trying so hard that you have desensitized the area.( which means the nerves are so over stimulated that an overwhelming signal is delivered to the brain and is confused with pain where the brain temporarily "shuts down" the system) I know a guy can be desensitized by overstimulation. In a guys case, the expert, who was commenting on this, recommended resting a couple of days.
Ali, I have a hard time understanding how you can be happy with the fact that you need a guy to have orgasms. If I were in your position, I would feel rather frustrated having a hard time having orgasms through masterbation alone. The way I see it, you should be able to give yourself orgasms, then you will know exactly you like and be able to tell your partner (assuming of course that your partner is interested).
I am 23 and as you probably know from previous threads, I don't have sex, but I do like having orgasms (as I'm sure most people do). You want to know something interesting, I find that I have the most powerful orgasms when I'm lying down and just rub the head of my penis with my hand over my pants. I don't even have to make skin-to-skin contact, which is kind of nice.
Why is it that everyone that doesn't conform to your ideal of normalcy can't be happy? Grow up man. Stop posting stuff like this. People are coming here for advice, not be told stuff like "why aren't you normal?". You don't even know what normal is. You have NO experiance in anything sexual and one of the most closed minds of anyone I've come across. You're telling a girl, that she's not right if she can't get off by herself, when you know nothing about females having orgasms.
If you ask me, the fact that you can orgasm from just rubbing your head through your pants is messed up and very abnormal, but you haven't heard any of us come down on you for this in ealier posts when you've mentioned this.
People are coming here for sex advice, NOT to sit here debating and babysitting you all the time b/c of the "knowledge" you have from no experiance. If you know the answer to a question, fine. But in situations like this post, you knew nothing but you still post anyways, and it's not even a mildly intelligent response to Ali. Your whole idea of "i say what i think" would be fine if what you thought had any relevence to the sitation at hand, but it doesn't.
I personally can't see a place for your ultra-conservative ways in this forum. Maybe you should go find another.
Mike, if you would read my posts and understand them, which you clearly don't, you would see that I never said that I have some ideals of nomalcy as you put it. I never said that what Ali was doing was not normal. All I said was that if I were in her place then I would rather be able to give myself orgasms than have to rely on someone else to do it. And I'm sure most people would agree with me on that point, son.
You should try masterbating the way that I described instead of simply "jacking-off." You might be surprised as to how it feels. And what's wrong with a healthy sexual debate? Are you frightened by discussing sexual issues? I think that I'm an important part of this forum and I plan on staying here whether you like it or not.
What are you doing with the vibrator? If you are sliding it in and out of yourself that could be the problem. LOTS of women never orgasm from vaginal stimulation. Nearly all women orgasm from clitorial stimulation.
Women also need lubrication. If the vibrator doesn't slide the stimulation is not what is needed best for orgasm. So if you are not using lubrication - get some.
And for a question further on------- I can orgasm in seconds from masturbating - and continue to orgasm until my arm is to tired to go on. I get equal but different pleasure from my lover. It takes him about 5 minutes to get me to my first orgasm - but they too can goon until he is to tired to continue. So NO- masturbation has no effect on the pleasure a woman can get from a man--it just sets higher standards for him.
Susan
Clay (no login)
Re: Orgasim
October 29 2004, 4:31 PM
I came across this site when I was looking into some lubricants. I thought I would share it with you guys. It seems like it was designed for women, since it is all about the female orgasm. Anyways, here it is. Enjoy.