My man touched my butt hole when he waz lickin me out. He's got to be a fag right?

No a person who is gay ( fag is an offensive term to most people who are gay) is attracted to people of the same sex. It has nothing to do with what body parts you are interested in.

Susan

No Joan he probably is not gay (don't use the term fag or Susan will take offense). He was what some people call "rimming" you, which is licking your asshole. Yes, gay men do this, because they don't have vaginas. Personally, I don't like the notion of licking someone's ass, since shit comes out of that at some point or another. Tell him to use his fingers and some cream/lube if he wants to play with your "back-door." I like the swirling feeling using my fingers and cream.

He touched a girls butt. So it seems that would be decidely NOT gay.

Clay, your assumptions about gay sexuality never fail to offend me.

Anilingus, or "rimming", is practiced by gay men a more commonly than heterosexuals and lesbians, it's true. However, it's not because they lack vaginas. You may have noticed something similar on your body, but the male body has a sex organ called penis. Instead of cunnilingus, I would think that a more appropriate alternative sexual act would be fellatio, since both involve the stimulation of a phallus. Some people respond positively to anal stimulation, be it in the perianal area or deeper in with the prostate. Anilingus is just another sexual act that is possible. I may be overstepping my bounds here, but a lot of men have a natural urge to place their penis in an orifice, and given that males are a little more limited in their choice of orifices, the anus was probably discovered. Perhaps the slight handicap with number of orifices has resulted in a more relaxed mindset about anal stimulation, and in turn justified anilingus in the minds of many gay men. I guess you might be able to reason out that because men lack vaginas, gay men tend to lick each other's assholes. But it is definitely not direct causation. Maybe I'll work out the logic proof or something


Although anilingus isn't something I agree to freely with any sexual partner I have, on occasion I feel comfortable enough to be that intimate with my partner. I don't partake in it because my partner doesn't have a vagina, but because I am comfortable with my partner, and I would like for him to have as much pleasure as possible.

I know this is a little unorganized, but I'd like to answer the original thread as well here. Your boyfriend didn't do anything gay by going "back there", so don't be worried. Perhaps if he licked a man's anus while eating you out, that would be gay. However, if you are unwilling to receive oral-anal stimulation and are bothered by it, just let him know that. If he respects you, he will make a point not to slip you the wet one.

Clay you are soo funny. Iswear when i read that post i couldnt stop laughing(i mean in a good way). And i totally agree licking some ones arse hole doesnt seem very nice. but it doesnt mean there gay just quite adventerus so im not sure if thats a good or a bad thing!!!!

Ryan,

Thanks for this response. Clay offends me too. But I am hopeful that with his posts people will learn more about people who are intolerant and will look at themself at start to rethink some of their ideas about people who harm no one.

Susan