Hi Susan, I am having trouble with my boyfriend. Overall everything is great, he is the most considerate person I have ever dated, I really like him. We have decided to start having sex. We talked about it, what precautions we want to take, what would happen if I got pregnant. I think we are being pretty mature about it.
When we were first dating we couldn't keep our hands off each other but we wanted to wait. Now it has become uncomfortable, he isn't staying hard and I am lost on what to do. I ask if there is something I'm not doing that he wants, and it seems that we've tried a lot of different things. Nothing is working and I don't even want to try anymore.
I feel so uncomfortable and very frustrated, I know that he is very frustrated as well. I asked if he is starting to think that we shouldn't be together, he says that's not it. I don't think that he knows what it is. He mentioned viagra at one point so I think he is open to that if necessary.
If age matters I am 24 and he is 26. I really don't want to end anything because he is so great to me, and other people have noticed as well. but I think sex is an important part of the relationship, he thinks so as well. Any help would be great.
Forget about having sex. For a few weeks go back to whatever you were doing before you decided to have sex. Pressure/stress is a killer for erections. I suspect he is not as ready for sex yet as he wants to be. He is worried about something. Have some more talks. Figure out what is botherring him. Then think about sex again.