well, this is kinda silly. Ive been with this gurl for 2 years now, and we love each other so much. we have had sex for a while now, but a year ago, i moved to a diffrent state. she lives in california, and i live in tenn. well, we are having some tough times, and now well,she is at the point were she does want to be with me, but not at this time. she has to think about it, but still be together (its hard to explain). Which i understand. But, she proposed, during this waiting time, i could have another girl friend, and whenever i visit her, she could be my friend, with benefits. well, it does sound like one hell of a good deal to me. But even though my genitals are saying hell yeah!! im kinda like, damn, but i only want her to be mine and dont want anyone else. its a pretty confusing feeling, i know, go with ur feelings if you love her stay with her, but, this whole thing of friends with benefits dont come in ur life regulerly..just dont know what to do.
It sounds to me like you have a girlfriend who wants tobe sure of herself and she wants you to be sure before either of you make a long term committment to each other.
So to date other people while you are a part is a good way to see if what you have will last. If you meet someone - or she does and it ends your relationship with each other- or just changes it- that will be a sad thing, but the best thing.
It is best to be sure a relationship will last now- rather than later when you have been together a long time - or you have gotten married. If it is meant to be - then it will survive both of youdating others - with benefits.