Hello! Had another great weekend with my girl to say the least...things really seem to be going well for the most part and we are both happy.

To put it simply, we usually only get to see eachother on the weekends...distance between us...college...me full time work...'nuff said.

We talk 2-3 times a day usually during work and before we go to bed for a while. About all kinds of things too...personal stuff, what happened during the day...family...anything. But I can't always bring to mind good subjects or questions to ask...not that I dont' think of her and good personal questions to ask...because i do...but she asks more than i...about what we like, what felt good, what we want to do next time...cute little comments...you get the idea..and i've been getting more open...but it is more so her.

Just generally, what are some good (personal, general, anything) questions I can ask to open things up a bit or just create good conversation...we don't usually have a problem...but over the phone during the week I like to try and keep things warm and interesting, build desire and attraction ya know.

Thanks a lot!!!

There are some great books I suggest you get.  When I had a cross the ocean internet romance I used these to help us get closer. There are several books by Harville Hendrix - One is called Meditations and Exercises for Getting the Love you Want.  I never did much with the meditations, but the exercises were great.

The exercises have you filling out lists, asking each other questions, doing role plays ---all designed to help you get to know each other better and to grow closer. Some need to be done face-to-face, but most of them can be done on the phone or via IM or email.

You can get this book and others by Hendrix by goings to  http://www.sexsupport.org/resources.html - then go to Susan's List at the bottom right side of the page.

Have fun!   Susan

Every now and again my husband sometimes surprises me with tidbits of knowledge, or something he discovered that he felt might be of interest to me. Its not only the information exchange and communication that I treasure, but also the knowledge that when he was reading/talking about/watching the issue he was thinking of me and mentally "filed away" something he thought I would find interesting. I try to do that for him too, and even though Im not really "into" the topic, I feel that my showing a little interest in his interest can only be positive. eg "Hey babes I heard that the singer from the Ramones died - isnt that awful? Did you ever get to see them live?"
Well, I dont like the Ramones, and I never saw them live, but I know he is/was into that kind of music. Know what I mean?
So... what is your gf into?