The reason I am asking about it is it might be a sign of problems elsewhere, and has possible repercussions with my future love life.

It seems as if I have an extremely long refractory period. When I am capable of having an orgasm or any type of sexual pleasure, I am only capable of having two or three, or possibly four. After that, I will be unable to have any sort of sexual pleasure for nearly a week, sometimes longer. If I do attempt to engage in any sort of sexual activity, I am capable of ejaculating, however, there will be very little pleasure involved in the activity. This is how it has been since I hit puberty and experienced my first self-induced orgasm.

I’ve tried asking around to discover what the problem might be, but I have been unable to find any satisfactory answers. I’m curious as to why this is the case, what physiological basis it might have. I’ve tried researching and the only thing I’ve been able to find out about that might be close to my condition is erectile dysfunction, but the symptoms do not seem to be identical. My problem is not related with being unable to maintain an erection, but is related to the lack of ability to feel pleasure.

I might be mistaken about some facts about sexuality. When I am able to reach orgasm, simply any stimulation of the appropriate areas will cause pleasure. When I am not, no matter how much stimulation is given (even up to the point of ejaculation), I will not be able to feel pleasure. This problem also seems to be independent of any outside stimuli, erotic materials, etc.

I might be making an improper assumption of how often a normally functioning individual would be able to experience sexual pleasure. However, in speaking with both male and female friends, I have found that my case is somewhat unusual.

Of course, I am no doctor, but my best guesses say that this might be a hormonal problem. That, or it has something to do with the inner workings of the plumbing down there- perhaps some thing to do with the seminal vesicle, prostate gland, or something like that. It’s been a while since I took health class, but my absolute best guess is that is has something to do with things down there.

If you'd like any more information I'd be glad to provide it. Also, if you'd like to refer me elsewhere, I'd be welcome to that too.

Thanks, Montresor

Montresor,

I have really no idea---but.....

I have known guys who have been totally worn out and it has taken days, a week to recover. I suspect this is what you are doing. I suggest you try an experiment.  Do not ejaculate more than once a day for two weeks. See if this problem still persists.  If it doesn't and I suspect it won't - then try no more than two ejaculations in a day for two weeks. Keep working up to more until you find your breaking point.

I think you are pushing yourself too hard and your body just doesn't hav ethe resources to recover as quickly as you wish. Fewer ejaculations more often I think would be better than more ejaculations less often ----- but see what you think.

Susan

Montresor,

I have really no idea---but.....

I have known guys who have been totally worn out and it has taken days, a week to recover. I suspect this is what you are doing. I suggest you try an experiment.  Do not ejaculate more than once a day for two weeks. See if this problem still persists.  If it doesn't and I suspect it won't - then try no more than two ejaculations in a day for two weeks. Keep working up to more until you find your breaking point.

I think you are pushing yourself too hard and your body just doesn't hav ethe resources to recover as quickly as you wish. Fewer ejaculations more often I think would be better than more ejaculations less often ----- but see what you think.

Susan