Sue,

Thank you so much for responding so quickly. I didn't want to go into too much detail before because other people read these posts too. It was BAD! We were both in the moment and I did keep telling him that he was hurting me, but when I would say that, he would calm down...but then it would build up again and again... Finally, he hurt me one too many times and I pushed his hand away. It was at that time that we saw blood. It scared us both so bad...my legs were shaking and he was just about to cry. We went to the shower together and I used the extendable shower hose head to clean inside gently. It was not just blood that came out, but what looked like SHAVINGS of the inside of me. Like when there is clotting during menstration but smaller, lighter colored pieces (and lots of them). I keep trying to block out the vision of it because it really scares me to think about. I'm so glad that I asked you these questions, because I was going to just wait and let it heal. But the more I think about it, the more I realize that I should probably get checked. I don't know what they can do for me though. Do you think that I should ask for medication in case there is a risk of infection (even though there has been no intercoarse since)?

I really thank you for this Sue, and I want you to know that I appreciate what you do and how you do it. You're a pioneer and you deserve a lot of credit for stepping up to the plate the way you do.

Thanks,
Crystal

Crystal,

I'm still not sure exactly what he was doing. But here is a few things to keep in mind in the future.

It it hurts stop. If he changes what he is doing or lightens up and it stops hurting - OK. But if he does it again and it starts to hurt again it is a sign that this is not something he should be doing. He has to stop and do something else or you have to stop the sex.

What the doctor might do is a couple of things. If there is a sign of infection he may give you an antibiotic. He may want you to douche with a medication - but I doubt this or insert a pessary (like aspirin to put inside your vagina). He may need to cauterize the inside of your vagina (burn it with a laser). If there is an actual rip - he might need to stitch it.

I'm not sure where your husbands finger was exactly-  I'm not sure what he was touching was your cervix - it might have been your g-spot. The white bits you are describing sound as if he was actually acraping the wall of your vagina off, specifically your gspot - but not your cervix.

Men whose fingers are inside a woman need to be exceptionally clean, the nails need to be short/preferably filed, and there needs to be no hangnails. Dirt under a fingernail that scrapes the inside of the vagina can cause an infection.

Small cut or scrapes inside the vagina are not that unusual - but they usually heal overnight.

Please make an appointment very soon. (Even if the bleeding stops.) And please let me know what the doctor says.

Susan