I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for 10 months. Our sex life is wonderful. He is gentle and giving and actually listens.
My dilemma is that although I am very turned on in my head, my body just doesn't get turned on too. My clitoris does not become engorged and I find that can't have an orgasm without that happening.
I know that I am capable of getting turned on. If I watch an erotic movie, for example, that really does it for me.
As I said, our sex life is wonderful. We really connect when we make love and it feels great. I just know that it could be even better, and I want to have that with him so badly.
Can you help me?
Hope to hear from you soon!
K

K

It is really hard to answer you. What are you doing sexually? If you need your clitoris to be engorged to have an orgasm (and that is not unusual or wrong) than your clitoris needs to be paid attention to during sex. This could be by touch- your partner can finger your clitoris, by oral sex with his mouth, tongue or even teeth, or by using a sex toy.  If your clitoris is not responding, my best guess is that your clitoris is not getting the attention it needs.

If this doesn't help , tell me more and maybe I can help better.

Susan

 

Why don't you both watch that movie together in private?

I find that watching internet porn does it for me too.