My boyfriend is having a problem keeping it hard, everytime we try to have sex, when he gets ready to have sex with me it goes limp and last night it would not stay hard at all, we tried everything we could think of. He had stomch cancer when he was nine years old and the treatment he had chemo at the hospital. Could this be causing all of our problems? And he has a problem going down on me. Can you please help?

Yes, having chemo is very likely causing him problems. You didn't say how old he is - and if he is living at home - but this is one of the things Viagra is designed for. He would definitely have to talk to his doctor to be sure there is no reason with his medical history he should not use it. Given he has had chemo his health insurance would definitely cover the cost. If he can't take Viagra there are other possiblities - but Viagra/Levitra./Cialis is the easiest way to take of this problem.

And about oral sex. You didn't say what kind of trouble he is having -so I am not sure how to help.

Susan

I guess he just doesn't like licking vaginas all that much. I suggest that you have a 'frank' discussion about that and about him taking Viagra or another sex-enhancer drug and see how he feels about that. Some guys don't like giving oral sex, but others love it. Most guys like getting oral sex.