Here is my story, it just happened recently. I went to the strip club with some friends of mine for my birthday. My friends paid a strippers to give us a lap dance. My friend made the arrangement for which girl to which guy. Since I'm asian, he chose the asian girl for me. It turned out that she was my cousin. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to make a big scene. She gave me the lap dance. I'm not sure if she wanted to or not. At first I didn't really wanted her to but once she started she made me feel good. I liked it. after that incident I couldn't get it out of my head. I even had fantasies about her. Am I wrong to feel this way about my cousin?

No, there is nothing wrong with the way you feel. But put it behind you and forget about it. I'm sure she wants to forget about it as much as you do.

In the future though, if something similar happens - speak up - or atleast have a quick discussion with the person you feel uncomfortable with to decide what to do.

Move on and forget it!
Susan

I wouldn't feel too bad about what happened. If I were in the same situation, I would probably let her give me the lap dance too, instead of having everyone find out that your cousin is a stripper. You probably should stop having fantasies about her though. Maybe you could go back to the strip club alone and talk to her or invite her over and talk to her.

Thanks for the advice. If I should to talk to her should I give her back her bra? All the girls efter thy were done gave us there bras as a token. What should I say to her. I'm not 100% sure but when she gave me the lap dance, she didn't really seemed to be bothered by it. She was as "wild" as the other girls.

She was working and probably never actually enjoys what she is doing - it is all an act - she probably just had to act harder with you. Mail the bra to her with no comment or note.

Susan

She might have been a little 'tipsy' when she gave you the lap dance and might not have realized it was you. Those places are usually dark and from what I remember, the strippers usually have drinks before dancing.

I don't know about the no note or comment thing susan...

I know if I was her, I would probably wonder what that ment. If he was mad at me or not or some such thing. But I'm a worrier :P

I think a short note applogising for the situation and saying why you didn't speak up would smooth it all over. then you really should put it behind you....*shrugs*