Susan, Hi there ok here is my question: my boyfriend and I have had dry sex and he goes down on me all the time and I also give him head whenever he wants. welluis there anything else we can do besides the stuff we have already done- any new ideas or fun lil adventures we could try ( with out having SEX)!!! Please help us out- we are lost and have no ideas comming to our minds

Thanks

Emily,

I hate to break it to you, but you are having sex.

Dry sex isn't sex but fellatio (giving him head) and cunniligus (him going down on you) IS sex. You can pass on sexually transmitted diseases. Depending on precisely what you are doing you may even be risking pregnancy - dry sex is rarely as dry as we think it is.

I assume you have decided you want to keep your virginity. But do you really understand what that means?

There are three generally accepted definitions of virginity. 1. Your hymen is intact. 2. You have not had sex. 3. You have not penetrative vaginal sex.

1. If you are a typical active teenage girl, use tampons, are athletic - I can virtually guarantee your hymen has torn naturally.

2. You're having oral sex.

So for two out of 3 definitions you are not a virgin.

So why not have penetrative sex? A good reason is not to risk pregnancy anymore than you are now. Your body may not be ready to have sex. If nice to keep something special for someone special.

Personally I think you are not a virgin. You are having sex. And evidently the sex you are having isn't good enough. That is really sad.

Oral sex for women is usually better than vaginal sex. You are letting yourself have the best sex now. So the fact you think you need more means either your expectations about sex are really different than what they should be or boyfriend is really bad at oral sex or the emotional connection most people need to have incredible sex you just don't have or you just have a very immature body and you are having the best sex you are capable of.

I know this isn't the answer you expected - but this is the answer you need to know.
Susan

Different types of FOREPLAY is what makes ANY kind of sex really a lot of fun. Do stuff he doesn't expect. Do a search on this site for masturbation and get other guys/girls ideas here.
Example of something different: Blindfold him, pleasure him only and then let him do the same to you. You have to decide who goes first. Go slow and make it last. Generally, the more senses you can stimulate, the more you will both like it. The smell of HIS favorite perfume, the taste of HIS favorite drink, gum or mint, the SOUND of your sensual voice in his ear, your soft TOUCH just anywhere....can make him VISUALIZE wonderful things. Get the idea? Just before he ejaculates, let him smell that mint he loves or something like that. (The reason I say this is, a girl I really liked, chewed spearmint gum just before we made out..I really liked that smell. Today, many years later, when I smell that gum, I get an erection.) Your fantasies run wild doing this. It's fun.
Hiding mints somewhere on your bodies snd finding them BLINDFOLDED. Could be between your lips, in your ear,your bellybutton etc. Something different really spices it up.

Good suggestions Gregorio. Susan, is cunniligus a new term for oral sex on a girl? I have never heard of that before.

Cunnilingus is the real word for oral sex on a woman. Been around for centuries.