I just wanted to thank you about the advice you have been giving me. Twenty minutes of foreplay sure makes sex more pleasureable and alot less painful. I told my husband the only way iam going to have sex with him is if he takes the time to prepare me for sex and properly turns me on. He thought that once he was turned on and penetrated me that automatically i would be turned on a ready to except him inside me. NOT going to happen that way sorry! Why are men so naive about the womans body.

Well Belinda you were just as naive as he was....

And if you think 20 minutes is good - give an hour a try - you will be over the moon!

And two hours - orgasms will be instant and continuous for as long as he lasts.

I knew that foreplay was important, but my husband was always tired so sometimes foreplay wasn't an option. But i don't want to hurt anymore when we have sex so your right the longer you foreplay the better and easier sex is. Their is just one problem i get bored with it. can you give some pointers to make foreplay more interesting? Don't get me wrong it feels good, but sometimes i get to anxious even if im not turned on. Its like i want to get straight to the point yet my body isn't prepared.

Sounds like he needs the pointers....

Sex isn't about winning races - its about enjoying shared sensations. So just relax and stop trying to make something happen and just enjoy it when it does. The less pressure you put on yourself - the more joy you will have. The more attention he gives you without expcting anything - the greater pleasure you will both have in the end.

Susan

I would recommend that you buy a small vibrator that you can use to stimulate your clitoris while you and your husband are having sex. That way you'll be continuously stimulated.

Most guys are unaware that women need more stimulation than we do to have orgasms. Most guys also prefer getting 'head' than giving it. It's just the way it is.

Clay, I just love the way you give advice when you actually have never been in a relationship. Every man I have ever been in a relationship with has loved giving oral sex as much if not more than receivng it. You are as guilty of believing what you read and not what is true as the others who post here that think sex is going to be like a porn flick.
Susan