i`m gettin older now...................................
i`m gettin attracted 2 girls more, more and more
but i always think about it..........................

should i ask her out.... yes or no.......

in PSD(personal and social development), we talked about it, and 89% of the class voted that guys should ask girls out not girls ask guys...............


so i think......... what should i do.............
ask a girl out at my age(12)
wait till i`m older?
wait till a girl asks me out????

and another thing...................

do girls get attracted 2 guys as guys do??

Personally I think 12 is too young to date. If you want to go out with a bunch of kids your age - and include both sexes - ok. But date? I think you need to wait a few years. Enjoy just having fun without getting serious a while longer.

I see absolutely nothng wrong with a girl asking a guy out and paying.

Girls seem to like guys earlier than they like them. But guys usually get interested in sex earlier.

WELCOME BACK!!

You are just a 12 year old kid. You shouldn't be worrying about dating girls just yet bro. Enjoy your youth while you have it. Don't rush to grow up.

thanks for the advice

I was looking at girls at your age and found girls exciting. But, trying to communicate those feelings was quite another thing. I would always say the wrong thing, try putting my arm around them right off, assume that a girl liked me when she really didn't or just come off looking stupid..... I just wasn't ready physically or mentally. I found girls that were attracted to me that I just couldn't stand. Some would try to get close to my sister or my friend, but were after me. Some I liked, but did not like me, came back later in life looking for romance after I was married. That blew my mind.. Go figure! It became a puzzle as to what to do.
You have to remember that your priorities will change several times before you really know what you want. Later, the most important thing to learn is to become really good friends first before you get romantic, but right time and place..if you can't make a mental connection which includes TRUST..it will NEVER work no matter how strong the physical attraction..
Probably, the best thing to do right now, is develop some hobbies or sports, keep busy and don't think about them too much. It will come in time.

Women can be difficult to understand Gregorio.

Steve, this may be big news to you, but if you live to be 95, you will never understand a woman. They can change moods at the drop of a hat, purchase things they will never use, yell at you for nothing, then when you do something really bad, like crash up their car, they will love you to death.

Do not try to figure it out...you will be checking in to a rubber room talking to yourself. Some are really bossy and fussy and their poor boyfriends/ husbands take the brunt of the monster they created by pacifying them with gifts/purchases instead of listening to them whine.

The best idea, when a guy is selecting one of these fine creatures, is to pick up on all the clues before one gets tied down to a lifetime of pure torture.

Do you like shopping with them? Do they help you wash the dog or car? Can they do simple things without help? Are they creative with spare time? Do they have a lot of baggage? Do you trust them completely? They probably won't change later and neither will you.

Most guys overlook these clues, infatuated with the physical stuff, then it's too late!

Gregorio,

I'm not an ardent feminist, and what you said may have been a joke, but I still think it's disturbing to see stereotypes like the ones you said perpetuated.

From my experience with men, they have just as many emotions as women do but have been conditioned by their parents and society not to express them as fully. I find shopping tedious if it isn't for computer parts or scuba gear. I live in Los Angeles and I see plenty of men and women who have obviously spent a lot of time in stores buying the perfect outfit.

I think your warnings about finding a good women apply to both sexes. Anyone who needs control in a relationship can be bossy and fussy. Having interests or hobbies in common is important for when you have free time together. A good partner who lives with you will help with household chores if possible.

"Can they do simple things without help?"

This was what really got me about your post. Maybe I just took it personally because I'm getting a doctorate in a male-dominated field and I've encountered this attitude in several of the older professors. I definitely think that there are unique gender identities (men and women aren't the same) but no man will ever find me confusing because of stupidity or erratic shopping habits.


Lia

Haha that was Hilarious. But men are a pain in the ass as well.

What Gregorio said about women was completely true. It's also true that guys should get to know their partner really well before spending a lifetime of torture. I'm sure there are some exceptional women out there, but for the most part they are all the same.


Steve,
I venture to say that your experience with women is limited - and as long as you think that way it will continue to be so.
Susan

Of course both you ladies are correct...men can be just as bad....I was just addressing the understanding women post.

There are bad and good in both sexes...it's hoped that compatable men and women get together. Yes, it was meant to be slightly humorus....hard to discern with the typed word.
If I have offended anyone, I beg your apology.