Hello Susan. This isn't really a sex realted question, more I need some advice.

so...I go to see my boyfriend tomorrow...provided british airways gets everything sorted out anyway. :o

I went and had a wax done...to try and look somewhat nice for him when I got there. I don't know if the girl who did it was a complet novise or if I just don't wax well...this is my first time ever...

When she did my bakini line, she tore some of the skin and I was bleeding...I have some brusing along my pantie line...and the skin of my inner thighes is still very red and feels...different...like...fine grained bumpy, not smooth.

She also mised alot of the hair. I don't have time to get it waxed again, so I was going to use some nair hair remover...but I'm wondering if I should or not? It's been 2 days since the waxing, and though the brusing has gone down abit it still feels pretty raw down there...

any suggestions here would be much appreciated :o

I suggest you have a friend take some photos of your skin. Make copies. And go back and see what the manager of the place where you had it done thinks about it. You should get your money back and a lot more. If not, contact a lawyer as soon as you get back AND SUE THE ESTABLISHMENT.

No you should not use Nair or any other chemical product. Your skin is now damaged and you can't do much of anything. If you shave be very very careful.

Too late now - but this is like the advice given to brides ---any changes you are considering try a month ahead to be sure you like them - that gives you anough time to go back to the way you were.

I already called them and told them...

they gave me my money back, so I'm happy for that. I thought I should have gotten more, but didn't want to push the issue as I'm still writing exams and am dealing with so much stress :o

I didn't have money to go in eariler...I'm a poor student after all...they said my legs should be good after 3 days, so I chose 5 days before my tirp to get them waxed, just in case....

that'll learn me I guess...

Thanks susan

Susan-- I adore you but I have to say I disagree with the 'sue them' advice. I think Americans are SO sue happy. Any time there is any reason we think we'll win something by suing, we do it. This upsets me. If the girl was new or just a shabby worker, yes she should be lectured or something by her boss, heck, even fired if they would take it that far. If the girl hurt her on purpose, then possibly she should sue the girl. What happened was an accident, and we should all learn to be more patient and tolerant. I think getting her money back was fair.

M.

I didn't say sue the girl, I said sue the establishment. They are responsible for assuring that they have people doing work that they are capable of doing. If someone is new they are responsible for either checking references thoroughly or supervising until they are sure they know they know what they are doing. Obviously whoever managed this place of business was not doing their job properly.

I know you said sue the establishment. I think it is wrong to do that in this case. I was saying that if the girl did it on purpose, then maybe she should sue the GIRL (again not the establishment).

M.

I agree with M. You Americans like to sue eachother at the drop of a hat. The real winners are the lawyers, and you guys are too ignorant to see that.

I think a business that is involved in providing intimate care to people- and giving a bikini wax is intimate care has a responsibility to its customers to provide quality care. Quality care was not received. There must be repercussions for not providing quality care. I did not say sue first, I said contact the business management first.

Giving a refund does not restore a person's skin. Giving a refund does mediate the fact that this was done for a special once in a life time occassion that will be impacted negatively by this experience.

Simply giving a refund does not in any way cause the business to rethink how it does business. There is no penalty to the business for bad business practices.

I do not blame the technician for this. I blame the business management. They evidently did not provide enough training or supervision and there should be a consequence for not doing so.

In this situation I might ask for the cost to delay my flight until the skin is back to normal. The cost to see a doctor if needed. A coupon for a lifetime of free service from this business.

I would only sue if the business management was uncooperative in creating a reasonable restitution for my suffering. And a simply refund is not enough.

what is it that you think she could really sue this establishment for?

pain and suffering? Would you sue your barber if they nicked your ear or your neck. If I did I would have had two or three lawsuits just from that. I'm sure the wound was very light. My fiancé had her lip waxed when she was on acutane and it did something similar. She didn't think about suing them and she's a lawyer.

emotional distress? What emotional distress? Would she tell the judge that she was afraid that her boyfriend would love her over it?

negligence? This is her only possible case. But do you really think that she would want to waste her money suing this establishment over this. She most likely wouldn't be awarded any money and would end up spending thousands on the case.

I'm American and I'm saying that Americans are too sue happy.

Bruising and ripping skin off are not a normal part of a bikini wax. If it were the clinicians would have you sign a waiver before they even touched you.

As i said I would first try to get the business itself to make some restitution. And just getting your money back isn't enough in my book.

If a business is not responsible there must be repercussions. A nick from the barber is not the same as having skin ripped off in that very intimate area. Imagine if some of the skin from your testicles was ripped off because you decided you wante to be hair-free? Would you still be quite so accepting?

This is why I prefer shaving 'down there' as opposed to waxing. A little shaving cream and water goes a long way.

I agree with you susan, I am A law student and you would have a serious case against a place that did somethign like that. And you would def get some money b/c most likely the establishment would settle out of court before it made it to a trial!

wow...I go away for a few weeks and it seems this thread explodes :o

The brusing is gone and so is the redness...apperenlty she burned me b/c I had some peeling skin like you get when you have a sun burn...only it was along my panty line. The skin on my innter thighes and along my panty line is still discoloured though...it's darker then the rest of my skin..and it feels really dry. I have been putting aleo gel on it to try and get it to heal faster.

If it is still like this when I get back to canada, do you think I should see a doctor? or is it on it's way to healing?

I haven't used any nair on it yet..and probably won't for some time.

uh...do you know a fast way to free hair growing under the skin and ingrown hairs? it seems that every single hair on my legs isn't growing right

And Odang...your post was alittle condsending. Do you know what I went through?

Pain and suffering? Yes...there was. There was one part on my leg were the wax wouldn't come off, so the woman kept putting more wax on and trying to rip it off...to the point that I had almost 2cm of wax on that part of my body. When she finished she didn't even remove it. When I was out searching for something to remove the wax from my skin, I went to another salan and the woman that did waxings there looked at my leg in horror. When I finally removed the wax, there was a black and purple bruse the size of my fist! I couldn't walk without a limp for 2 days.

As for emotinal distress...I wasn't worried about that and that is a stupid thing to say. I was emotinally distressed at the time though b/c I didn't know what was normal. It was my first wax. I knew it was going to hurt..and I played off all the pain I was feeling to the fact that it was a wax, not b/c she was doing it wrong.

I'm canadian Odang, and I had many family members who have had waxings done before suggest the same thing.

Please don't assume to know about my situation, and don't use it to belittle Susan. I don't appreciate it.

Take photos asap. Yes, see a doctor and a lawyer. You should not be experiencing anything wrong at this point. All those ingrown hairs sound like a problem that arises from a pooorly executed bikini wax.