I figured that you would be able to help me with this. I know someone who's girlfriend broke up with him and gave him a stupid reason for doing so. This was at the end of July.
Now we're back in school and he says he's over her and now he's totally hitting on me. The problem is that I've secretly liked him for the past year, but I'm worried to get involved with him because I don't want to be a rebound girlfriend. He knows that I've never had a boyfriend or anything, but I'm worried that he might be using my "naivity" to his advantage.
How can I tell if he really likes me or if he wants me as a rebound? Are there signs that I can watch out for?
We are extremely glad that you came here to talk to us...
As adults, we have all been thru this and you can benefit from this experience.
Personally,I would date casually and not "fall in love" just yet while in school. Serious relationships involve maturity, caring, commitment, trust, honesty etc and most important, financial responsibility. I'm sure neither one of you is quite ready for that yet. Moreover, before you get serious with someone, you need to become good FRIENDS, first. When we are/were teenagers, we tend to want to "make out" before we make a true mental connection. We confuse this warmth and tenderness for "true love". Many people get married based on this warmth and don't really know each other. When they finally get to know them, they find out things they don't like and it's too late. This is the reason why they say your "taste in dating" may change many times before you become an adult....hopefully experience makes you smarter.
Dating someone for the first time, you need to play detective. If you catch them too many times in stories that just aren't realistic, you have your first clues. If he talks with you, but is always looking at girls...another good clue. Lying is another. Do you really want to be with this person while doing your things similar to shopping? Do you really enjoy talking to him? Do you have similar interests? Do you find him boring? Short tempered? Egotistical? If you find things about him you don't like now, he probably will not change. And you probably cannot change him.
You need to follow your heart, but very carefully!
I wish you luck!
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Gregorio