This one I did delete. You aren't saying anything you already haven't made clear. You don't like what I say - so don't bother to read the site.

And yes, I do get to delete, edit what I like. I pay the fees to keep this site up. This is not a site to discuss me - it is to discuss people's problems and questions around sexuality that they choose to ask me and others who regularly post here.

Hey nothing, Susan does a great job at what she does. You better watch out b/c not only can susan edit your messages but she can ban you from this site!! Thanks susan you do a great job! Dont worry what this Nothing character says! He does not appreciate a great service for many people.

Thanks Mark! But no name calling, please.

Sorry sue I was jsut looking out for you! This girl in my class asked meif it was true that with enough touching and pulling and carresing if it was really possible for breast to get larger b/c of that?

Only temporarily. If doesn't cause any permanent change and the temporary change is hardly noticeable unless you are looking for it.

I wish people would leave Susan alone. If you don't like what she says then don't come to the site. She's really helped people like me and it makes me angry when people start dissing her for trying to help people and end their confusion. So please, bugger off and leave her alone.

Mark....serious stuff.
Susan is, of course, right.....but before you answer that girl....and it gets around....

if any girl, that feels she is small, thinks that you will NOT stimulate her breasts into growing bigger, it will be one LESS chance for you to get your hands on them and one MORE chance a plastic surgeon will.
As a girl gets older, has children and or gains weight, her breasts will get bigger anyway. Wouldn't you want her to think your hard work massaging them at least helped? Of course you would. And there is a slim, remote chance that maybe it will!

Nothing...seriously...what do you have agaist susan?

From my pov, susan is the most honest person I know. She tells you the truth about many things that other ppl would shy away from. She has more knowledge then my health teacher from highschool, and she is a nice person that I don't feel scared or nervous approaching.

You keep saying you want 'kids' to go to other sorces to get all the information, but by any chance have you looked? I have. For the few questions I have I've looked for other sorces so that I don't have to come running and bugging susan every time I want to know something. And I would say about 90% of the time, I end up coming back to this site b/c susan gives the facts that I need to make the decision that's right for me.

That being said. Why do you automatically assume everyone is an idiot? You seem to feel that b/c susan gave us some info and suggested we do something that we are going to do it, no questions asked. This may surprise you, but if you are coming here asking questions about something as private and personal as a sex life...you think long and hard about what ppl say and how it applies to your situation.

I've read over your posts...and you seem to condem susan b/c she gives lots of advice that you don't agree with...and b/c you don't agree with it means it isn't right. You seem to think it's wrong that she edits or with holds posts. And you don't like how she has the attitued 'this is my site and I'll do things my way.' I'm sorry to tell you this nothing, but susan is more then fair in everything that she does. She puts up with some ppl...you for instance...where others would have just banned them. If you did this on a site I modded, you would have been banned long ago.

It is one thing to have your own opinion, but it is a total different playing feild when you start attacking the person who was kind enough to make a site where ppl could ask such private questions.

You compaired susan to dr. phil in one of your posts....dear god why? Dr. Phil...a marrage counciler. Susan...a sex counciler. It is like compairing apples and oranges. They have NOTHING to do with eachother. The only show on tv I think you could compair susan's site to is the Saturday Night Sex Show...and I have to say, that old woman is just as informative and gives pretty much the same answers as susan. But, that show can only be played on saturday nights after like 10pm b/c it is related to sex.

Wow...this turned out alot longer then I originally thought :P I guess I'll wrap it up


Basically nothing...if you feel that susan is doing such a bad job...then leave. Quite personally...I'm sick of reading your personal attacks on susan. She is doing us the favour here. She could easially say that she doesn't have the time nor the money and stop at any time...but she doesn't. Susan is a caring person...one who I'm proud to take advice from. She helps when she doesn't have to...where as you seem to make trouble where you don't have to.

Thanks Elf Girl - but you know you never need to hesitate to ask your questions - I always like to answer whatever you ask. That's what I am here for.

Susan

I know...but I feel that you should atleast try to find the answer yourself before you go and ask someone...it was just the way I was raised...my parents would incourage me to find the answers myself before asking them :P

PS ~ is there a certain time you go on chat?

Susan is great.

Thank Billy.

Elf Girl - I hardly ever just go to chat---but if anyone happens to be there I always go. You can open up two windows - one fo rchat and one to read the messages. If I see chatters are in the room I go straight away.

I've tried setting up a time to chat, but it never seems to work out. Pick a time and post it- maybe people wil show up.

Susan

hrm...I always go on the chat when I venture to the site...(I'm on right now)...and I always sit there for an hour or so before going off to do other things...no one ever comes in...was wondering if anyone else actually goes in there or not?

Susan only posts certain messages from me. I wonder why. Susan is doing a service by responding to peoples questions. I think that is a good thing. I think she should be applauded for that. I think that she attacks my point of view because it is different than hers. I dont expect anyone on this site to see it because it is Susan's site. I personally feel that susan's advice is more centerd around masterbation and I dont agree with that. Last time I checked I didnt have to agree with her in order to post. Susan I have only 1 queston for u. If I am a school teacher, and I was so horny that on my free period I masturbated in the bathroom. Would I be a typical male? Based on your advice, I would be a typical male but to me something seems wrong with that. Would you kid to have a teacher who masturbates during his free period because he cannot control his urges. Step up Susan and answer the question.

I told you why I only post some messages from you. I don't post messages that are not in keeping with the purpose of this site. I do not post messages that hammer the same point over and over again. I do not not allow threads to continue that might make a person unnecessarily feel bad. I do not post messages that have no other purpose than to tell me something they think I should know. (I read it- no one else needs to.)

Masturbation is only a small part of what I post about on here. I post in response to questions asked. Teenagers have a lot of questions about masturbation - so alot of masturbation questions get asked.

You are asking a question out of context of what I replied to Billy. Billy has been posting here for a few years so I know how old he is. I also know his behavior is typical of young men his age. I did not say it was clever to do it- simply that it was not at all strange that he did it. It did not make him a sex addict as he thought he might be. Typical does not mean everyone does something, typical means that it is considered ordinary if someone does it.

If a person is a school teacher I would expect them to be mature. I would also expect them to value their privacy. Masturbating in a bathrooom is not exactly the most enjoyable place to engage in that activity. But if it is their free period - it is their free period - and I am reasonably sure teachers do all sorts of things we might not like teachers doing on their free period. Smoking a cigarette/joint, eating junk food, surfing the net for porn, popping pills in excess of what prescribed, and yes, maybe even masturbating.

So would this teacher be typical if he masturbated in the bathroom? Given all of the above, I doubt it, but I don't really know. I would guess it might depend on whether he was a very young teacher - just out of school or an older teacher. The research I cited didn't ask people what work they did - only if they ever masturbated at work. (BTW - you do know what cited means? - it means published research that I am quoting - not research I did myself.)

Masturbation is not about not controling urges. Masturbation is about having sexual feeling and choosing to enjoy them. If a teacher has a free period and he knows he has absolute privacy (an office where he can lock the door) and he chooses to masturbate - I have no problem with that. I think its a bit odd, but if that is what he wants to do - it is no business of mine as long as he is able to go back to teaching at the end of his break without issue.

Susan

Susan...you gotta put a little common sense into topic. Let's look at it from a young male teacher's point of view. He's got a job to do which is teaching class. However, there may several very attractive girls scattered about his class. (After college, he did not go blind.) He's still got plenty of hormones. Knowing how they dress today in tight fitting, low cut clothing, with lots of skin in full view, crossing or rubbing their legs and smiling, I can see a teacher easily getting a good boner since many of the male classmates do also.. What he does with it is his personal business. I did say it MIGHT take place at the earliest convenience.
As I pointed out in the story of the old skin flick movies, that masturbation goes on everywhere.
It just isn't pimply faced kids who do it..

I have read everywhere that 95+ % per cent of men masturbate, will masturbate or have masturbated in their lifetime. NOTHING, that means 95 out of every 100 boys/men you meet in society have. 950 out of 1000. 9,500 out of 10,000, etc. Strong real numbers.
It happens almost everywhere.
The minister, priest, postman,cook, teacher, waiter, senator, congressman,dentist, doctor, butcher, married guys, single guys, the baker and others that you meet have. What is foreplay on a guy, but masturbation by definition? (errotic stimulation) And so on.To think this might not go on at school or work because you think it doesn't, would be foolish...of course it could. Simply... when a healthy man gets a good boner, he is already half-way to an orgasm.Visual stimulation or imagination alone can do it. Simply said,that's the way it is.
So, the point is , Susan, do not cave in just because someone thinks that this site emphasizes masturbation. In reality , this site emphasizes the truth of what is really going on. If, someone here cannot handle the truth and think that things are not as they really are, they need to go to other sex-help sites and ask the same questions.( Of course, none of them come close to this one and many questions are answered erroneously by just anybody) Then, hopefully they will find out what you know already. There is no reason to try to soften up the truth to coddle a poster...hey, your words "that's the way it is or the way I see it" are, in reality, simply GOOD ENOUGH.

Susan I think you should close this discussion. IT is becoming repetative and people are not being nice to you when you are ding many peole a great service!! Thanks for all your hardwork!
~Mark~

I'm giving that idea some thought - believe me!