hi. me and my girlfriend decided to go futher in our relationship and decided to have sex last night. she was all excited and was all wet. i played with her pussy and was kissing her but i couldn't get a rise. why could this be is it cause im not intreasted or what? we was there for about 2 hours and i had no luck with a rise. i felt so bad i kept apoligising but she kept saying its alright. do you think she would dump me for this?

No, I don't think she is going to dump you for this. And sometimes guys penis's just don't work for some weird reason - given your situation my guess is performance anxiety broughht on by the stress of trying to do it with her the first time.

This is not something guys are inclined to talk about, but it happens to guys alot!

Hi Anonymous

Like Susan said, a lot of guys dont like to talk about it. I know it was very embarrassing for me when I tried. I was very nervous and anxious and put so much pressure on myself that there was no way looking back that I could of "performed".
My advice would be to take it slow, dont pressurize yourself.
What works for me is not going in telling yourself "we are going to have sex now". Just mess around like you used to do. If things fall into place, which they will after time, then the sex will just come to you naturally, no pressure, no expectations. =)

It happens to the best of us..... I know that if I am overly frustrated, like playing with her pussy for over two hours it would happen to me also. Why that happend I cant explaine it, but it does. Maybe shorten the lenghth of foreplay....or maybe your to anxious to do the deed...

so if this happens again does it mean ther is something wrong with my little bro below? does that mean i will have to use viagra? what effects will i get using it?

You don't need Viagra if it only happens once in awhile. Nothing is wrong. It happens to virtually every single man on the planet at least once in a while. Stop worrying =- it just makes it worse.