Ok susan, i have a question for you- i wanna know if i should be somewhat mad or not.. my boyfriend came over tonight ( he just got back from a back and havent seen him all day) well anyways,I was realy excited to see him and then he was like i want you really bad right now, and he was rubbing my leg and touching me - so i took that as he wanted to do stuff or at least tease a little- but he nwouldnt do anything because my roomate was in the shower- now i want to know if i have a right to be somewhat mad at him for telling me that he wants me and rubbing me and touching me- and for getting me going and then saying no?
thanks sue

Yes, I think you have the right to be mad, but not too mad. And you need to talk about this and then if it happens again - be as mad as you want.

Let him know that it takes a while for a woman to get excited. It also takes a while for a woman to get UNexcited. And while men seem to be able to take care of business quite quickly, for women it is a bit harder going. So while the occassional time where he can't follow-thru might happen - if he can't/ won't follow-thru to the end he has no business starting.

But in the event this happens again. The solution is simple. Masturbate. Do it in front of him/ or next to him while he sleeps or tries to and let him watch/listen. If he doesn't want to perform because your roomate is around there is no reason you can't continue on your own without him. PS Give your new vibrator a try!!!!