My girlfriend is a virgin, as am I. I knew this for awhile but I just found out last night that she has NEVER had an orgasm. She said that she NEVER even once masturbated, she hasn't even touched herself down there at all.

Now It's pretty much my job to make her orgasm, since she's never masturbated or orgasmed with a guy before. I tried encouraging her to masturbate but she just doesn't want to.

She's been eaten out and says she doesn't like it, and she does like being fingered.

She said that she would want me to eat her out to see if its any different, and I don't want to dissapoint.

I'm not very experienced either, so I am wondering what I should focus on since she doesn't really know her body, and has never had an orgasm.

Fingering slowly and eventually work on the G-Spot? Or should I eat her out and focus on her clitoris while fingering? I don't know really I really do want to give her her first orgasm so I am wanting some advice.

Oh.. and my erection problem hopefully won't happen again but you told me not to worry about not getting hard again.. but thats much easier said then done .

Thanks.

You are unfairly being given a big responsibility. First off - lots of young women have never orgasmed. Many women have had sex dozens of times before they have their first.

The two of you obviously need to have some discussions about sex. If she doesn't know what makes her feel good - how are you supposed to know? How is she even going to know when she is starting to feel good?

The best way for a woman to have an orgasm only she can learn on her own, where she feels safe, confident, unstressed, and free to experiment and explore. Every woman's body is different and what pleases one woman makes another woman nuts. Trial and error and practice is what works.

To ask you to figure this out is a tremendouss ego deflater. How many things are you going to try that don't turn her on before you feel like a failure? Its all well and good that she isn't interested in masturbating - but then tht means you have to do all the work of trying to figure stuff out.

If she wants an orgasm - her best bet is to try feeling different sensation and figuring out which ones feel best to her. Then she can pass on that information to you to do further exploration with.

My advice if you do go down on her, is to focus on her clitoris instead of putting your tongue in her vagina. I don't know about other women, but I get nothing from that, and I wonder why men even attempt to put a tongue in there... stay at the clitoris!

Nathan...Susan said it all. You two need to get to know each other mentally before you go at it physically. Sit down and talk to her. All about life...banking, shopping, hobbies, clothing, tattoos, jewelry, and all that interests you. Great sex is also about trusting your partner completely...you two may not be ready quite yet. That first sexual experience should be very special and something to remember.