Hello, this may seem like a silly post but I am pretty ashamed of the way my vagina looks. I am 21, not sexually active (virgin). One of my fears is that when I get involved with my b/f I may not want to get naked in the light for him to see. He will eventually be curious I guess. I've dated 2 men in the past and both wanted to eat me out. They were literally begging. They had to settle playing with it while my pants were on, which was pretty rediculous but I am really nervous about what his reaction will be. Well I took out a big hand held mirror and placed it in front of me with my legs spread and I observed it hehe. The lips are long, i think it's too long- i'd say 1 inch each. My pussy looks fat too, I shaved all my hair off completely before but always dissatisfied b/c it looks even fatter above where the pubic was. So now I leave it w/ hair but trimmed. I've noticed that my clit is not too big but a normal sized ball lol. I was upset to see a very, teeny hemorrhoid by my butt hole. It's really small but I was irritated by that. I will try a cream and apply it on that but I remember my oldest sister having one and she got it surgically removed and it never came back but I can't imagine my ass spread like that at a hospital table for doctors to see. I'd be too embarrassed. I also noticed a small bump, only one, but right inside my vagina, like on the right side wall before the entrance. It looks like a blood clot, not sure but it does not hurt at all. I guess it's nothing. So my question is do men really focus on how the vagina looks like? Would he get turned off? I don't think it's ugly but I do wish my lips were shorter and I wouldn't go under the knife for that. Any inputs? Thanks.

Vaginas come in all shapes, sizes, colors, hairness, etc. Every one is unique.

Have you ever had a gynecological examination? If you have - then none of the stuff you are describing needs attention. The "red ball" just inside your vagina could be a bunch of things - has a doctor seen it? If not AND you have no idea how long you have had it - I recommend you see a doctor for it.

Sure guys look at vaginas. And I am sure guys who have seen a lot of them have their preferences. But what you describe sounds like a very ordinary vagina that any man would like to look at. If there is a guy that worried about what your vagina looks like versus what kind of person you are and how much he wants to be with you - then he is not a good guy to be with anyway.

Hello, thank you for the response. To answer your questions, I have never had a gynecological examination...is it needed? The red ball has been there for about 6 months, no doctors have seen it. I thought it would fade away but it's still there. I don't mind it but I am curious as to what it may be. Yea, if it's still here in about 3 more months I will go see a doc. I am uncomfortable with doctors being down there. I remember when I was 15 (6 years ago) I had a yeast infection and I was dying on that doctor table. Just really uncomfortable, I don't know. Well I will see one in 3 months if it is still there. Yea, you're correct about the guy complaining then he is not the right guy to be with anyway. Thank you so much!

Sweet heart.......... all pussy looks great. beleive me, because I have seen plenty of them.... its all good, even you anus....

If you are 21, a gynecological examination is over-do. You should have been having one every year since your menstrual periods started.

Don't wait 3 more months. You need to see a doctor soon - very soon.

If the red bump was something you have had all your life -I would say not to worry. But since you acquired it recently - you need to go get it checked out.

You also need to get over the embarrassment of having a gyno exam. If you can't handle that - how are you ever going to have sex, or have babies?

Look for a female doctor if that makes you feel more comfortable. Tell them you are anxious and this is your first exam. They are used to people feelimng scared and anxious. Don't delay - call today.

Alright thanks John, good to have a man's point of view on this. Susan thank you. I will make the appointment tomorrow since I was busy all day today. I didn't know having that examination was that important. Now I know! Thanks again.

Ok me again. I'm a little nervous after reading about it and it mentions that a speculum is inseted in the vagina. Doesn't that hurt a little?

Speculum insertion is uncomfortable, but it doesn't really hurt. Sometimes they are cold- ask that it be warmed up if it is metal (they almost always are).

What will hurt is the pap smear. But it is really important - especially since you have never had one. You won't need another one until you are sexually active - and then you need one once a year. They cut a tiny part of your cervix and then examine it under a microscope to be sure you have no unusual cells. It is really really important to get one even if they do hurt.

They probably will want to test your blood and/or your urine. This will help see if you have a high bacteria level in your pee or if your hormone level are OK.

They will not give you a mammogram, but they will want to examine your breasts. If you do not know how to do this yourself- ask to be shown how. You will put your arm over your head and the doctor will feel all around your nipple and your breast.

Remember doctors do this stuff all the time. It doesn't worry them what they see or how you smell or if you fart.

Be honest with your doctor about everything and then they can help you best. They understand that getting a gynecological examination is not your favorite thing to do. Just try to relax!!

You sound very similar to me. I too was embarrassed about how my vagina looked, I too was really nervous about going to the doctor for my first pap smear (luckily for me, I have a wonderful friend who now who has a way of getting me to do things and has helped me become braver ....last year she somehow managed to talk me into getting a french wax! lol ...I think jumping in the deep end sometimes does a lot of good; going to the doctor after that still made me a little nervous, but was a lot less frightening, lol). The past 6 months have held a lot of first for me.

Yes, there is some discomfort when the speculum is inserted (but don't worry, it's not in there for long), it did hurt me a little but that was probably because I was so tense with it being my first time too. My doctor told me to relax and relax my legs letting them flop - Easier said than done but do try and relax, it will be so much easier for you.

im a virgin?.and planning on gettin birth control pills, bekuz im planning on having sex soon w/ someone. and i went to my local clinic. and talked about the birth controll pills. she made an appointment for me to get examined. i heard they use a speculum for the pelvic examination. im a virgin. will it hurt if they use the speculum on me?

Speculums are uncomfortable for all women - no matter if you are a virgin or not. They are more uncomfortable and even hurt if you are tense and stressed. So try to relax. Part of being sexual is having one of these exams once a year for the rest of your life - so get used to the idea of it and it will be easier.

I had one, while i was pregnant. I didn't feel anything. But i think i have i really high pain tolerance. As child birth didn't hurt me to much either, and i didn't have an epidural or any pain reducers. Breaking my leg hurt more than giving birth, but even that i handled pretty well. When it comes to anything that is painful, the trick is to stay calm and breathe and try to think about a pain that is stronger then the pain your going through or about to endure. Thats what i do and hey, it works like a charm. If i start to panick then the pain takes control of me and then thats when you feel it more.