I was put on some medicine after I had my back surgery 4 years ago. Needless to say they have caused me to have no sex drive at all. I feel nothing, unless I try not to take them for a couple of days then it is great, but I am in so much pain by then with my back and leg it is unbearable. Is there anything I can do? I have mentioned it to my doctor and he says I have to take the medicines and to try a different position. Well it doesnt matter which position I still dont feel anything.

You have 3 choices:

1. Have a very serious discussion with your doctor. Say you are not happy and you want to try other medications for pain. If your doctor is not willing to even try other medications, then

2. Get a new doctor who takes your sexual life more seriously. There is almost always another medication you can try to see if it causes the same reaction.

Do research on the internet and see what other drugs are like the drug you are taking. Sometimes two drugs that are very similar will have an important difference.

and/or

3. Try to just decide you are going to have sex. Masturbation and orgasm can be a great pain reliever. The hormone reaction that causes an orgasm is the same thing that causes pain killers to kill pain. Stop taking your medication for just one time and try to masturbate when you start to feel pain. (If that doesn't work - take half as much.) Then try to skip two - then 3. Maybe you can't eliminate pain killers- but maybe you can take less of them.

Good luck and let me know how it goes.
Susan

Thanks for your response to my question. I have tried to not take my medicine for a couple of days at a time, because I do get the desire to want to have sex and I really enjoy haveing sex with my husband. When I do not take them for a couple of days my back and left leg goes into spasms, I go ahead and have sex and by the time we are done, I am hurting so bad that my leg is quivering and my back is in knots. I will try to talk to my doctor again, and see if he has any suggestions, but he told me when he put me on these that they were his last alternative. Once again thank you so much, I will keep you posted.

Maybe there are two different drugs you could take. One taht you substitute when you want to have sex taht would haelp with the pain. Do you remember trying different pain meds when you were first injured? Have you tried different ones since then - what worked then and what works now might be different.

I tried to send an answer a couple of days ago and it wouldnt accept because it was too long- and I was out of time, so I hope you're still on here! I have tons of personal experience with back, nerve and other various physical stuff, including med related lack of orgasm, yes I tried cutting back and doing without, and found a MUCH better solution- an OPEN mind!!!
I'm serious as can be- if your nerves are dulled by medications, you need powerful prolonged stimulation to your clitoral area, GET A VIBE!!! It can produce the intensity and duration that we mere humans just CAN'T when there's physical sensation issues involved!! I don't know how old you are, but believe me, in my 20's or 30's I would never have dreamed I'd need artificial stimulation- I thought I'd have to give up on orgasms as a thing of my healthier past, NOT SO!! You have a physical need, please dont let embarassment hinder you from seeking your own healthy response. There are so many shapes, sizes and intensities of vibrators that I'm almost sure you can find one to suit you- and if you didnt know, Susan has a shop connected to this site and I'm sure she'd be happy to help you choose a starter. Personally, we started with a little keyring thing called a "pocket rocket" and a egg shaped thing attached to a battery pack, both solely for clitoral stimulation, and I responded very well, with alot of practise and laughs.
Good luck, I feel right where you are and this worked for me!!!