Hey. My husband for some reason wont let me into his past and it bothers me. I feel sad that he cant confide in me. He says it not my business and to stop being nosy. Why is he pushing me away? After being with him all these years i feel like i really don't know him. Why am i making so much of an issue about his past, i dont know, but i feel like i have a right to know at least his sex life. When i met him he told me he was sexually active, but when i became active with him he told me was a virgin. Now he tells me to mind my own business. What do you think is going on?

Unless he is carrying a disease from his past, what right do you have to know what he did before? He may regret and be embarrassed about what he did, he may worry about what you think about what he has done or not done before. The fact you seem to be nagging him about this probably just adds to his worry that you will have a problem with it. Let it go.

Someday he may want to tell you. He may not. Just because you are married does not mean you have the right to know everything about a person before you got married. And depending on how you define your relationship now, you may not be entitled to know everything he does now.

When you marry you should be marrying because you trust someone. Part of trust is allowing a person to decide what, when, and if they want to tell you something.

It sounds to me like you don't trust him. That may be what it sounds like to him too. A lack of trust is a big crack is a succesful marriage. Stop worrying about what he did before and start worrying about why you do not trust him now.

Hey Belinda, didn't you recently have a baby? The exhaustion and resulting depression of constant care that a new baby needs could be clouding your vision of your husband. If it wasen't a pressing issue to know his history before you got married, you really should leave it alone now- unless you suddenly have an unexplained STD. You may be feeling frumpy and unattractive and SOOO TIRED- all of these things can make you lash out at your husband, and as he gets more distant, you try to draw him back in with TALK. Most men aren't talkers, especially if they think an arguement is coming!
Take care of yourself! Get lots of rest and healthy food. Go for walks in the fresh air, with or without baby and husband. It can take awhile to feel "normal" again after pregnancy, and that goes for the husband too.
I sure hope I'm talking to the right girl cause I'll feel pretty stupid if it's not!
Hang in there and good luck.