I still haven't quit porn. It's really bugging me. I don't look at it more than 2-3 times a week, but it is annoying me. My relationship hasn't suffered, but everytime I'm with my girl I regret EVER looking at porn.

Will my relationship eventually suffer?
Is it possible to have a GREAT life-long relationship and porn?

Lots of adult men enjoy porn with no ill effect. My lover loves porn. He knows I don't like porn. So it is a private thing he engages in. I don't mind because it has nothing to do with me. Some guys go bowling. Some guys go fishing. Some guys look at porn. It only effects your relationship if you allow it.

I am concerned though that you can't quit looking at it. You aren't doing it a lot, but if you really can't quit that is troublesome. You should be able to quit doing anything it you truly want to stop doing it. So I am worried that maybe because you are so young is the reason it is so hard for you to quit when you want to quit.

So I want you to try to go without for two weeks. When you want to look at it, instead I want you to get out a piece of paper and write about what you are thinking about. Come here and write if you want. Then after two weeks just go back to whatever you want and see if writing your feelings down makes any changes in your desire.

Susan

Opinion...keep porn watching completely private...that is to yourself.
Little Gregorio is going to say that you will never completely drop porn or looking at pictures...
You will always look at shapely woman in a dream, fantasy or in the real world the rest of your life cause you are completely NORMAL...almost all guys will. However, as far as porn is concerned, you need to take CONTROL or you will probably continue to feel guilty...
Thus, when you watch porn, set a timer so you know when to stop. You pick the time. Like 10 minutes.Then STOP, thats it for the day or even a couple of days...because it is easy to get carried away. Then go do something you like to do...like one of your hobbies. You might like this arrangement better, feel more in control and feel much better towards your girl..and toward yourself.

I'll try alot of the above. Thanks again.

The problem is that whenever I get on the computer and start looking at normal things (MySpace, Gamefaqs ect..) One thing leads to another and eventually I look at porn.

A while back I went without it for months, that was after I looked at it nearly every day! Then suddenly I got back into it...weird.

Billy....many guys get bored, turn on the computer and look at porn. After you have a solid relationship with a woman, you may still look at porn...simply because it is exciting and there are no strings. You may stop a while, but you might come back. (However, cleaning up the computer tracks or viruses can be a real pain.) In reality, looking at porn is way better than messing around with real live women with regard to jealousy, financial problems, unwanted kids, disease and trouble.

However, most woman will NOT see it this way, understand or accept this as Susan does...which makes you think it's wrong when maybe it isn't...it may be perfectly alright.... IF IT STAYS WHERE IT IS..... I call that:
HARMLESS PORN
1) If it does not affect your views on sex or your girl/ wife/so
2) Does not make you want to act these things out in real life.
3) Remains absolutely personal and private.
4) Does not affect your health.
5) Does not keep you from doing normal things in life.

In your case, number one bothers you so......
Like I mentioned before...set a timer...5 or 10 minutes...then turn it off. Limits you set for yourself. You decide.

You can also go to other interesting sites. Check these out....

bored.com
googlearth.com
local.live.com

Bored,com has links to games and optical illusions which I find really interesting. And plenty of other stuff.
googlearth.com has satellite pictures of your neighborhood or town.
local.live.com has those and aeronautical photos of towns.


Gregorio

I have google earth and have put hours into it. Such an amazing program I guess you could call it.

First I'm trying to go without porn for two weeks. I started yesterday. I have it easy since band camp starts this monday, I'll be gone for five days and won't even get the chance. It's no problem at all if I know I CAN'T look at porn!

Two wednesdays from now I've told my self I will not have looked at porn. We'll see what happens!

Thanks for the other links,
Billy

Billy...In thinking over my advice about setting a timer when you watch porn,I do not know if you masturbate to porn or not, but if so, maybe it is the masturbation part that makes you feel guilty and not so much the porn itself. In your attempt to give up or limit porn, I would like to make it clear that I would never suggest you limit normal masturbation. In any solid relationship, the girl, and guy, should accept that masturbation goes on and is simply a physical need, not necessarily the suggestion of dislike of a partner. However, many girls would find it difficult to accept masturbation or porn in a relationship....they take it as a personal slight against them...and they would say that they would like to be part of your every sexual need....and we all know this isn't logical.

It's almost Sunday and I'm having no trouble. I'm keeping this up for as long as I can! Thanks guys! (and girls)

Billy...you set your goals in life and you can achieve them, one at a time.
If you have one habit that you determine is bad for you, then you might want to REPLACE, or CONVERT it with a good habit. The reason why I say this is that SOFT porn is also another form of art appreciation..you see a beautiful woman...you appreciate that. You may have an interest in art.... so maybe art is for you.... maybe drawing or doing oil painting would interest you. Or similar. Developing a hobby might be a better idea to pass time when you are BORED. Anyway, you get the idea.
Gregorio

I play the piano and have played for years. I have a great interest in classical music. Such things are art and should be appreciated.

Thats great Billy...I love music too and make my own cds.

I got bored today and looked at about 5 minutes of softcore porn (no nudity). I went to a hardcore site and felt guilty, so I masturbated to nothing. This is the first temptation in nearly two weeks. Have I failed?

Of course you haven't failed. You are showing success. You were able to look at soft porn and get aroused enough to think you wanted hard porn - and weren't excited by it. And then you did it without. That demonstrates a change in behavior for the better. Keep up the good work!

A beautiful woman will never go out of style. You are a normal guy so quit beating yourself up. And you cannot go blind just cause you are in a relationship. She will catch you looking at other women...you are human, and us guys are visually driven. You certainly can't avoid that. Given the choice of watching porn or going out in the world and staring/ responding to/ making advances towards partially naked women, porn is way safer. I would guess that the number of guys that watch are around 95 out of 100.... it doesn't mean 95 out of 100 guys are bad butts...just human.

It's the principles you set between you and your girl that are important...not if you look at porn or not.
So, don't feel guilty about it...just decide what you want...a lot,just a little or none at all. Like I said, set a timer and stop. And keep it private. If she cannot accept that you look at it, maybe it's time to find a new girl. Sorry, but it's true. Like, Susan, she should have an open mind. And when you get the new girl, do not tell her. Some things have to remain private...
Gregorio