okay so my boyfriend and i just started doing stuff lately and we don't plan on having sex anytime soon, but am i able to still have an orgasm without having sex? like he has ejectulated before i've given him a hand job and it seems so much more easyer for him to just let go i guess. but like i don't know what im doing wrong. what are ways for me to figure out what pleasures me because right now im lost. =(

Shelly,
The best way to find out what pleases you is to masturbate and learn to do it yourself. Then you teach it to him.

You don't say how young you are, but young girls often do not orgasm. And if you sex for you is vaginal sex, then yes you can have an orgasm without it.

Orgasm should not be the goal - pleasure should be.

Susan

what are different ways to masturbate?

There are thousands of ways to masturbate. Use your fingers, use objects. Stay completely outside, go inside. Light touch, hard rub. Move slowly, move fast. Move in circles, move back and forth. Rub between your fingers, rub all around. Discover your clitoris, your labias, your urethra, your anus. Use lube, use more lube. Use water, use whipped cream. Taste yourself, look at yourself in a mirror. Read a porn magazine before, watch a porn video. Lights on, lights off. In bed under the covers, in the bathtub. Buy sex toys that light up, warm up, vibrate, or just feel nice.

Masturbation is only limited by your imagination.

All great advice, Susan and I wish to add....
I would guess that you are just beginning, and because you noticed that your boyfriend can ejaculate so quickly, that you feel under pressure to do the same in a similar way. While there are girls who can orgasm quite fast, NORMALLY it takes a longer for a girl to start feeling good or to build up to an orgasm(s). So, after you learn how to give yourself an orgasm (s), teach him.... as Susan said. One of the big things you can do is to RELAX and just let it happen. Don't be afraid to tell him faster or slower or to move his hand to a slightly different area. Tensing up can work against you. If you are dry, use LUBE.....lube helps smooth the sharp stimulations that might make you tense up and loose that feeling.

This is what worked for me when I first dated and long afterward.
I suggest that when you are mutually masturbating, have him work on you FIRST and getting you going before you begin to stimulate him. You can stimulate him, but do not hit the sensitive areas until you are really going.. This way it helps even out the differences.

Remember, no matter how you do it.... it is difficult to have you both orgasm simultaneously. However, you will learn exactly how his organ feels and how he breathes about 10 seconds before he ejaculates.
Learning this now will help with foreplay later on when you decide to have intercourse.
I sincerely wish you the best of luck.
Gregorio