Hi Susan, it's been a long time since I've posted on your site so I thought I would visit to see how things were going. I'm truly sorry for all the trouble I've caused in the past and for all the people that I've offended. How are Nick and Gregorio doing? Would it be ok if I started posting here again?

Clay,

I'm not sure you have really changed, but I have no way of knowing. Did you do the things I recommended you do before coming back? How have you changed? I'd like to invite you back, but I need some reassurances. Hope to hear from you soon.

Susan

I can understand if you're weary about letting me back into your sex support forum, but I can assure you that I have changed now for the better. I was going through a difficult time back then and was pretty angry with myself.

How about if you ask some of the 'regulars' if they would mind if I returned? If everyone agrees that I should stay banned then I will leave. I went to counselling as you suggested and it allowed me to resolve some issues that I was bottling up. All I'm asking is for one last chance.

Clay.

Clay,

OK. You said the magic word: counseling. I hope you are being truthful. So yes I will let you back to post. But you're not going to get a second chance - this is it. I hope my confidence in you is not misguided. Welcome back.

Susan

Sorry Susan... I'm not sold very easily...and I can be a hard case...so I'm going to say;

Clay ...you caused poor Susan and others here a lot of stress and hurt, cleaning up, commenting on or deleting your hateful messages; a heavy cloud that hung over this forum even after you left. We, the readers, only got to see just a SMALL part of these messages. Even some of these cleaned up posts really turned off innocent and confused people looking for logical answers. It may have affected the ultimate success of this forum. People wishing to post simply went elsewhere because of you and may NEVER come back. So, just saying sorry cannot erase this from peoples minds. And Susan was a different person trying to decide what to do with you. I could feel the stress from here and it was very unpleasant. None of us have time for this.
I simply feel that a person can control himself better than this after being warned time after time, and that counseling is not an all time cure. So, for you to COMPLETELY change would be an absolute MIRACLE. I look at things more logically. Frankly, I'm not much on the mysterious powers of the universe. When someone says they will change over and over, but they don't, I get worried.When someone lies time after time, something is seriously wrong. In effect, you were getting a form of "counseling" here and it didn't work. In that light, you are going to have to PROVE that you changed....that may be very hard to do given your shady past. To be sure, I'll be watching with an extremely critical eye. As before, Susan and I will reinforce the original idea that you read and reread your posts and think how they will be taken, BEFORE you send them. Your success here hinges on this very simple concept. You can be a good friend or an absolute enemy.... it's your decision!
Gregorio

Thanks for giving me one final chance Susan and Gregorio. I promise I will not offend anyone ever again. I'm a changed person (for the better). You'll see.

Clay.

Sweet Susan has been way too polite with you. She has a kind and generous heart. It's her decision and her forum.
So....... I'm easing into this idea very gently. I usually don't give ANYONE a second chance...ever. She has given you many. And now...one last time.
So, for now I'm going to say....

"Hi Clay, hope you are doing well.Bet you missed this place."
Be sure you read, understand and abide with all the new posting rules....in a prior post.
Gregorio Pedrini

Hi Gregorio, I'm doing quite well now, and how are things with you? I have missed reading and posting on this site while I was banned and I'm glad that you and Susan have allowed me to come back. I read the new posting rules and will try my best to abide by them.

Clay.

Doing okay Clay. Good to know you got things straightened out.
Gregorio

Wow, sounds like things are going well with you Gregorio. I'll have to get a decent car in the future, I'm still driving my 1988 oldsmobile. Also, I will be starting teacher's college in the fall and will eventually be a high school teacher.

Clay.

I suppose that some of you guys are wondering why I have come back to this site after being banned last year. I just wanted to prove to you guys that a person can change for the better. I've learned a lot of things during my time away from the forum like I should be helping people by giving them good advise instead of insulting them. This is the person who I really am, a caring and thoughtful individual and not a mean and heartless moron.
Thanks again guys for giving me a final chance to redeem myself.

Clay.

Good idea. I just amended the guidelines.