Hey Susan I don't know if you remember me from a few months back but when I first starting getting sexually active; about 8 months ago; I initially had a problem with my first partner that I did anything past kissing with.

I was nervous to the point where I couldn't get an erection, and if I did it was weak and would go away. Being a male this is the most ego-busting and embarassing thing that could happen. I asked for some advice and I tried not to think about it as much and it came to the point where I could get hard if I was having sex... but with oral sex I couldn't maintain the erection which was terrible. Anyways my symptoms got better as the erection with sex wasn't a problem anymore...

With my next girlfriend it was the same... I had troubles in the beginning but she was understanding and eventually it worked out. I thought I was cured!

Now as months have gone by without any problems, I recently broke up with my girlfriend and started "playing the field". I met a great girl and not too long after we were fooling around in the bedroom. I pleasured her and made her feel great but when it came to my turn I couldn't get hard. Even when she was playing with me or trying to give me oral sex it was a dissapointment. Of course I blamed it on some excuse that she believed.. but I felt TERRIBLE.

Now 3 days ago I was with the best looking girl I have ever fooled around with and I had the chance to have sex with her which I havn't had in a long time. She is very sexy, and I was very horny but again I just couldn't get it up. This leaves the girl to think A) there is somethign wrong with me or B) there is somethign wrong with her. I HATE THIS. I know I am not gay haha I am def not attracted to men or gay porn, but I'm thinking its still nerves.

I have never orgasmed with a partner with the exception of once through intercourse but I still had to finish myself.

I don't know I'm confused I dont wan't this to happen again with oral sex or sex. Even now its hard to stay hard with sex

Nathan,

You've identified your problem. You get nervous when you are with a new partner. So you are going to have to get used to the problem AND time to go see a urologist to see if Viagra might be helpful to you.

Keep working on staying stress-free with new partners.

Susan

Hi Nathan, sorry to hear that your penis doesn't want to get hard when you need it to. I think you are too young to get started on Viagra or Cialis as these drugs are intended for older men. It sounds like you need to strengthen your pubic muscles. Try doing kegal exercises. Susan can help you with this. My pubic muscles are very strong and keep my cock nice and hard when I get turned on. Good luck next time.

Clay.

If you can masturbate by yourself and it works fine then, then you KNOW it's nerves that contribute.

When you get nervous, nothing works right.
I'd say get to know her or someone else a little better before you attempt sex. Be very comfortable with her first. Then relax and let it happen. My thoughts.... This is not the time in history for one night stands...you'll be sure to pick up something sooner or later.
Cut down on any bad habits like drinking, smoking etc....they are erection killers. Play safely. Gregorio