hi again! i posted a few months ago about erection problems! since then i have met the girl of my dreams! we do everything together, shes amazin! she cured my erection problem, was annoying at the start but she got rid of that problem for me! im having problems with how long i last! i always seem to ejaculate just before she orgasms and its gettin a bit annoying for us both but it doesnt always happen this way! some times i last a good 20 - 30 minutes, but other times i struggle for 5!
at the moment she is away for a month in zambia on a medical school trip and i want to know if there is anyting i can do to surprise and please her when she gets back! i really want this relationship to work and i dont want our sexual relationship to cause a problem! sex is amazin with her and i just want it to be even better!
So if you have any tips on how to last longer, please share them!
THanks!
will

I doubt there is any problem with you staying longer. If you don't last long sometimes - them's the breaks. All guys sometimes ejaculate quickly. It just can't be helped.

What you can concentrate on is being a better lover. Learn to give her the kind of sex she responds best to. Give her more of that sex. That way if the sex on your end is quick - she won't mind.

Best idea is do not penetrate right away cause once you do, it's a matter of minutes. So, I'd go for more foreplay, mostly on her, get her breathing heavy, then penetrate.
However:
Most guys have the same problem. It is important to set enough time aside for sex cause it's sure to happen. I know how it feels. You get a big let down when you ejaculate. And she stops feeling good. But it isn't the end of the world. When this happens, you might want to excuse yourself, take a break, sponge off with cool water, then get right back to lovemaking. Excite her again slowly, have her excite you and you should be able to last longer this time. It is very important that she is fully satisfied....so this is a good goal.
Another idea is trying one of the big three enhancers. You would think that they would hasten your orgasm, but for some reason they give you better CONTROL. You will be bigger and harder when you orgasm...and she will REALLY like that too. If for some reason you still orgasm quickly, they will bring you back faster. Go for the one that is the best bang for your buck.
Another idea is use a pleasant tasting or smelling numbing agent (depending on how intimate she gets) to slow you down. Just a little on the head should do it.
Also little wine before might slow you down.
So you got time to prepare yourself while she is gone.
As time goes on, and you get older, you will last longer thus sex will get better.And thats something to look forward to. No matter what...foreplay is really where it is at and what makes sex so good.
But, whatever, we want you to come back. You might have some good tips to pass to us.

hey all...its been a while since i posted! Met the most amazin girl about 5months ago and its been heaven since! nothing can better this! I have gone from being useless in bed to a master (well in my opinion!) never last less then 40mins...and then there is foreplay!!!
some tips iv picked up for lasting is to think about something totally different...i work in motorsport and i just think about driving around all the race tracks, especially when i feel like i will cum early!
the past few months has been so amazing...all i will say to anyone is wait for the perfect girl (or boy) its SO SO SO much better!
My girlfriend had never orgasmed...but she is getting so close...been reading up on your tips to help her out on the forum...pretty confident she will soon be there!!!

Thanks for all your help in the past year!
Will

I Think . you care a lot for her, and when you see her about to orgasm it makes you to hot to control your self.
sex and communication go together.make sure she knows how much you care about her < women like to hear THE WORDS> the more secure she is in her relationship with
you will speed up her arousal and she will orgasm faster
which can ge a real good thing cause they can have more than we can .mutual orgasm is a fact and can be learned
but dont let it take away the fun or the love ever.
but I may be wrong can't know from type written words on a screen.