the fact of girls giving head is really a turn on. but when i look at it i just want to know what its like sometimes when they are sucking my dick. when i jackoff it turns me on holding my own dick and i think i want to suck it so bad. i just feel the need to suck someone off so bad. not someone just a dick. i want to be in a girls position and suck a dick to just be in their shoes it just turns me on. feeling the thickness of my own turns me on when i masturbate i cant handle it. the fact of them swallowing my cum i just want to swallow someone elses cum when their dick is in my mouth. the whole thing turns me on and i want to do it and im straight i just want to do it. ive tried swalloing my cum but its differnet than already having a dick in your mouth cause u feel him cummin on your tounge and its there and it dosent cause a mess u just sallow it and i want to know what that feels like it turns me on. i have a gf and i dont know if this is a sign of being gay but i need help if it os to determine if i am or not i dont have a problem with people saying i am i just want to do something like that. just keeping it private and i dont want anyone to know thats why its hard to make this fantasy come true. id never want anyone saying im gay or making fun of me cause my friend mouths off and says i sucked his dick. i just am afraid of all of that nonsense but i want to do it so bad. id def do it with someone that dosent know all of my other friends like a secret friend thats gay and will do it out of his sex preference and is comfortable with it while i do it cause i want to but its just hard. im jw if i am gay and if anyone else has felt this way how it is for you girls on sucking guys dicks if you love it in all those ways that i fantasize about it

Ben,
How you describe yourself is a bisexual. There are different kinds of bisexuals.

First there is sexually attraction and there are romantic feelings. You can be sexually attracted to someone or some aspect of having sex with them without having any romantic feelings about them at all. Alfred Kinsey developed a scale in the 50s that is still being used. 0 - 6. 0 and 6 are people who are completely homosexual (gay) or heterosexual. 1 and 5 are people who have sexual attraction to both sexes, but romantic feelings for only one. 2 and 4 are people who have sexual attraction to both and romantic feelings, but still feel that they are homosexual or heterosexual. 3 are bisexuals who have nearly exactly the same feelings about both.

SO how that plays out is there are bisexuals who are mostly gay men/lesbian, but are sexually attracted to the opposite sex and like to have sex with them.

There are bisexuals who are mostly straight men / straight women, but like to have sex with the same sex.With men this is often called being on the down-low. With women this is the what some men find so attractive - having a three-some - supposedly every man's dream.

For some reason in our Western culture it has become really exciting and sexy to see two women together and no one thinks much of it. You can see it on late-night TV almost every night in the "Girls Gone Wild" commercials. No one thinks of these girls as lesbians - and most of them if not all of them aren't. They get off on women's bodies.

Well men get off on men's bodies too. It is just our culture that makes it an unmanly thing to do. If women like a man's body - why shouldn't men like it too?

It is possible that if you got with a guy it would take care of your fantasy - and that would be the end of it. But it is also possible and more likely you would get with a guy and find it really exciting.

Personally, I have no problems with you being gay or being bisexual. I have my doubts many people are really completely herteroseual or gay - I think are society pushes us to make a choice.

Susan

Hey Susan, I was hoping if you and Gregorio could help me to decide what my sexual orientation is (since you both know me quite well). I always believed that I was a straight male, since I really like girls, but have not had sex yet, since I'm waiting for the right girl. I'm also into seemingly gay things like masterbating with a very large dildo, because it feels really good.

I can accept being a bisexual male, but the thought of having sex with another guy is quite repulsive to me and something I would never do. Therefore, I can't be a homosexual, since I'm not sexually attracted to males. Plus, I would never march in the Gay Pride Parade, since I don't support homosexuality. So which orientation do I fit into?

Clay.

Clay,
I am going to be honest with you here - which you are not going to like - but here goes. I think you are bisexual or gay. In fact I am sure of it.

When a person is so adament about not being gay and yet displays so many characteristics of being gay - he is in denial. Your religious upbringing doesn't even allow you to come in remote contact with your real feelings.

This is not about being a virgin at 25 or about enjoying anal masturbation or about shaving body parts or being conservative sexually - it is about the whole package.

You may never in your life have sex with a man or fall in love with a man - but that doesn't change the fact that I think that deep down inside of you that IS what you want.
Susan

I guess I fit into the bisexual group of males then, or maybe the growing number of metrosexuals males?

Still in denial. No, not metrosexual. Bisexual or gay.

LOL @ metrosexual. One question for Clay: Why not have sex if you are already screwing your butt? lol. Your anal is no longer a virgin. I know this may seem silly, it's like asking why masturbate when you can have sex but just curious why you try anal w/ big dildos but nothing else?

Clay,
I really dont know you as well as you might think....you actually need to interface and interact with someone to know them. I do remember that you were somewhat confused about your sexuality and hung up on religion as Susan mentioned and consequently reminded everyone. I believe you have made some improvement over the "original Clay" I remember. You are more mature, write better posts, have some direction in your life.
But, anyway no matter what sexual choice you ultimately make, the same rules about trust, honesty, fidelity, sincerity, caring etc apply for anything that will become permanent. However, to do this, you have got to first be honest with yourself about who you are.
As I mentioned before, time is slowly slipping away. You have passed thru your sexual peak without a partner. And maybe that isnt a such big deal. There is still plenty of time to get married or get into a permanent relationship, but you need to go out on dates and get your "feet wet" before you can make any serious choices and become comfortable with that person. And maybe bi is a good choice for you...it covers the gammit. You have got to start mixing with prospective partners and put your religious hangups into prospective. You need to be a friend to someone. Its about bucking family tradition, becoming bold and aggressive and doing something intelligent and logical for yourself.
I took time to write this because I think there is a solid future for you, but you must BELIEVE IT TOO to make it happen.
Respectfully,
Gregorio

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement Gregorio and for believing in me.

i just gave head today to my friend while he was driving i loved it. all guys are missing ot on giving head. no wonder girls go so crazy over it i love it so much.

I guess we can say for certain that you're a bisexual male ben after giving a blowjob to your friend ben. I have tasted my own cum many times, but I don't think I ever want to have sex with another guy.