From a guy ...I've always thought of oral sex with a woman/girls as bringing them pleasure. But I was talking with a girl/young lady who said giving blow jobs wasn't as much about bringing pleasure as it was being in control. I inquired further and she said "I can slow down to make it last or blow his mind if I want it over." She implied there was something special about literally having a man by the balls (gripping). To the ladies: is it more about control than pleasure? Although I'm sure it can be both, which is greater?

I think it depends on the circumstances, the man, and the relationship. There have certainly been times when I have been angry with someone and the pleasure they received was minimal and the anger I released was not. And it is certain that you are rarely not aware at how easily you could hurt a man who is between your teeth. But the part of oral sex I love the most is to feel the subtle reaction when my tongue grazes certain particularly response spots.

When performing oral sex on a woman I am thinking about satisfaction. Having a man by the balls with potential squeezing, etc. or even sinking your teeth in as an option is pretty extreme! I guess it is a woman's world after all. What about other females out there do you feel like you have extra control sometimes or just satisfying who you are with? Pretty scary for the guy actually! We'd better be with the right one. Thanks for replying

I think you misunderstood-----mostly oral sex is about mutual pleasure. A man can cause pain for a woman almost as easily as a woman can. But teeth are a part of oral sex on a man in a way that oral sex on a woman will never be.

I've never thought gee I've got her right by the clitoris and I have complete control over her because of it. This is what my friend said she feels like when giving head. She can make him wait, finish him off, or give a little agony at her leisure. Primarily because she has his gems in a total control situation. I just wanted to know how many other girls/women feel or have felt that way, or if my friend has a control problem. Thanks

any man i have ever given oral to considers it a special form of sexuality. they have always preferred it over any other form of sex. what i dont like about giving oral is having the man pull out when i am about to orgasm expecting me to give oral. i dont find the act of giving oral especially stimulating. i just like to give pleasure i think. i like to think my man is satisfied. it is a two way street for me. i know men that dont like to give oral to a woman yet they love to have the woman give oral to them. it should be a two way street i feel.

Denise,

You haven't met the right man yet. There are lots of men who love oral sex - both giving and receiving. In general I find the more mature a man is the more likely he is to like to give oral sex. And some guys aren't all taht into or capable of regular sex and excel at oral sex.

Susan

I have all ways loved giving more than recieving.when I was 10 yrs or so a friend /co worker told me about it.I was sickend.then my 14 yr old female cousin taught me how to and where to do it.and she was very vocal about her pleasure.I was HOOKED. still am.BUT i have met women
who will not allow it,dont want it and have been told never to go down there again,or else party is over for good. some of these ladies enjoied giving though.I have found it's usefull to keep the fire lit till I can go
for the next round of intromisson. Different strokes make different folks happy or mad???.don't take rejection as personally directed.At least half the time
you arent the one the partener is thinkin of.