Okay so finally im over all my nervousness and i can actually get it up and get it on! woohoo! i didnt know exactly how good of a thing i was missing for 18 years....first i was too nervous, now i cant get enough :D . oh and she doesnt believe i was a virgin now because i can bring her to orgasm, which isnt too hard to do. I guess 8 years of porn and beating off actually can teach you some stuff afterall....so just thought i should share that porno's can be educational(to a degree). She actually squirts like on the pornos. Im so fuckin lucky. Oh and to all you guys out there who are average size, IT DOESNT MATTER!!!! I stayed a virgin till i was 18 cuz i was so nervous about my size. 6 inches is enough, you dont need a donkey dick like the porno dudes!

IVE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER WOOHOO!

~*'-_//_BuzZ_\\_-'*~

I am so glad you waited because that is part of the reason your first experience was so great. I hope all of them in the future are too!!!

So if you wait awhile will it lead to great sex? I was just wondering because I started at 14 and i think to this day I should of waited but I don't know.

Sex is a lot more than just two people doing "it" together if it is going to be good. Both people have to a good understanding of how their body works and how the body of the person they are going to be with works. They have to be willing to give more than they expect to receive.

Great sex requires understanding the mechanics of sex and have the maturity to pick a partner who you have an emotional connection to.

If you start having sex when you are 14 and learn to do "it" by just doing it and not really understanding everything there can be to it, I have my doubts you will catch up and really understand everything it could be without a lot of really hard work.

I say this from experience. I had a lot of sex before I really understood what it really was all about. I've had a lot of lousy sex, but thankfully I have had a lot more great sex.

I dunno man, at 14 my dick was like 5 inches or somethin like that and i was too self concious about it to let a girl even see it. First time i got head the girl told me i had a cute little dick and it wasnt really a confidence booster.....porno had imprinted in my brain that u had to have a huge dick to please a girl so i went my whole highschool life only getting head twice, from the same girl, on the same weekend....talk about depressing....so i met this new girl and the first few times didnt go too well cuz i was so nervous because i was still afraid my size 6 - 6.5 slim wasnt good enough, which caused me to have floppy dick, i couldnt get hard. i had the same problem the second time we tried and yet the girl still stayed with me. I began to love her, and she loved me back, the third time i stood fairly strong, but we ran out of time....the 4th time was on a hard floor and i had to stop due to the extreem pain on my knees and ass haha, the 5th time was wonderful, i didnt get to bust but i got her off three times.....it wasnt until after that night that i finally told her i was a virgin until i met her and i had kept it from her cuz i didnt want her to think i was a loser....we were mad in love by this time and she told me it didnt matter, the fact i was a virgin made her love me more, she just wished i had told her so she wouldnt have rushed things. after that we had sex and i busted for the first time, it was amazing....now we have great sex all the time which involves both of us cumming multiple times, and she says im the best she has been with.....so even tho i had waited, my first few experiences werent good, but now we love each other deeply and it is the best thing in the world. I couldnt be happier and i am glad i found her.

~*'-_//_BuzZ_\\_-'*~

Others have started younger and I constantly hear that
if they had been older before they became aware of the
sensation of being sexually stimulated by another person
they would not have the problems that they encounter
when trying to engage in a relationship of equals with
a sexual partener. I had to Un learn a lot .When I was
10 I was molested by a 14 year old female cousin Who
had been used by her brother who was 16. This has affected every relationship I have ever had even with
my children.When I say molested it may be the wrong word
because I was very willing to do every thing she asked
I will leave it up to you to fill this out.
The main componet of sex is the BRAIN the body can learn
to cope with the demands .When I love a woman I can orgasm from kissing alone,it is not a short coming but
a very useful tool in the process she knows and in most cases loves it.what ever you do make sure you make Love
cause if not it's just mutual masterbation.Our physiology is preprogrammed for sex to bring us closer
and the younger you are the more intensely this works.

Buzz-----sex wasn't good at first because you were still stuck with your images of porn and weren't really with your girlfriend fully. Once you were honest with her and yourself and it became a relationship between people and not just about sex - that was when the sex got good.

DaryLynn---- you were sexually abused by someone who had also been sexually abused. Neither of you had the ability to consent to what you were doing. It doesn't matter if you agreed to what was happening or even enjoyed it - children are unable to consent to sex no matter what.

Just out of curiousity, are you a girl or a guy Darylynn? I think you're a girl, but I'm not sure.

Susan I know that a child is not able to consent but as children we arent told that, so for many years I felt that
I was complicit because I did not resist I wanted that experience and thenn I wanted more.I was mistaken I was 11
years old. This led me into the SIGHTS of other molesters,like radar.It took me a long time to come to terms with all this, A woman some 10 years older than my self ,whom also had been molested by her uncle explained it all to me and gave me the tools to deal with it.

Also for CLAY what would YOU like me to be.Some of are both atleast the lucky ones find this out early on.I use that name DARYLYNN to respect both sides of who I am.I raised two children with out a mate.
don't tell on me susan.

I was raped when I was 11 and I still think it was my fault.

I know it wasn't. I know I did nothing wrong. I know I could not have prevented it. I know there was nothing I could have done to change the circumstances.

I know it was entirely his fault. I know he was responsible for being in control of his feelings and body. I know what he did was wrong, heinous, unforgiveable.

I know all this and yet I still feel as if I was at fault.

sorry that happened to you .Was this person much older than you? I am amazed as to how much I have thought about these experiences over the years. My partener was a virgin
when we married .abstaining allowed us to fall in love because all we did was make love for a year before the wedding.we didn'have intromisson but satified each other with out. I came to see that there was some heavy duty mind bending chemical things goin on and now science has proved this to be true.I also have a question .As young as six I new that boys and girls were different and I wanted to get in there and see and touch that stuff I knew
the mechanics of the act.I cant figure where I got this knowledge and strong desire from.I spent a lot of time in
Texas childrens hosp.2 or 3 months at a time I went to school there .I was told that this was a trauma, and should be thought of as such.girls and boys were seperated
in rooms of 4 or 6 beds Except for post op. where you might be for a week .They respected no one's modesty in there.Catheters were the order of the day.Ive met so many
women that have been raped/molested that I think the incidence is greater than reported . I wonder if all that attention being given to the urinary system may have set into motion a series of relational thought patterns that emerged when sex reared it's not "so ugly " head.
(need to change my handle to ramblin rose)

The guy who raped me was older- seemed a lot older at the time, but was probably 18 or 20.

Kids with disabilities often have weird notions about sex because their sense of their body is so different than kids without. They have no sense of privacy. They have to hurt to feel better. Strangers look at your naked body and ignore your feelings. When you should be able to do some things by yourself because of how old you are - you are still requiring help. Things people expect of you for your age aren't expected of you (sometime for accurate reasons - others time not).

I have often thought of that.I used to pull my own stitches.Give my self my own injections when they
would let me.If I have a pimple I just have to pop
it.I can have anything nice happen with out waiting
for somethin to bite me on the rear.what are we? is
there any
hope or is it best to realize your crazy and enjoy
the ride.
If Pleasure Remains Does IT Remain a Pleasure

#1 You are conditioned.

You have been conditioned to have certain reactions to certain things happening to you. Because some of that conditioning involved genitals and pain- those concepts get mixed up. People into sado-masochism have those things mixed up (for different reason mostly) - in order to feel pleasure, one must first feel pain.

If you recognize you are conditioned, and you want to change the conditioning, you can. Think of a person whose wants to eat a Krispy Creme donut everytime they smell one when they walk past the store - they can't control themselves and they go inside and buy one. But if they decide they don't want to do that anmore they train themselves to ignore the smell or the feeling and over time when they smell the Krispy Cremes they still smell good, but they don't have the overwhelming and impossible urge to eat them - they can make a choice.

Some people hate what they are conditioned to so much they will do reverese conditioning - they hit themselves everytime they pass Krispy Creme - so that after a while they think of the hurt from hitting when they pass instead of how good it smells or tastes.

#2 You have a choice.
People with unrecognized psychiatric conditions or conditioning have no choices - they are controlled by their conditions. You always have a choice as soon as you embrace the condition/conditioning as a choice. You can choose to rid yourself of your condition (via medication, counseling, reconditioning, etc.) or learn to live with it by choice.

Example: I am a nailbiter. I find that I bite my nails when they get too long. So I keep them very short. But if I forget and don't cut one, if will be a constant irritant until I do and I usually end up biting it. When I bite it is often too short or gets ripped in some way and ends up being painful and worse than the too long nail. Occassionally I decide I want to rid myself of this of this stupid habit/conditoning and I wear nail polish everyday. My nails get a bit longer and I am not inclined to bite them because they are "pretty" - this works for awhiel and then I get lazy and don't want to deal with the nail polish and I go back to my old habits. Obviously nail biting is not such a terrible thing that I feel compelled to rid myself of the habit/conditioning.

Only you as an individual can decide if the weird things you do are things you are OK with and just make you quirky/eccentric/weird/unusal OR are things you really do want to change about yourself.

Susan

.I am Processing ,no quick reply here.I have known for a lot of years that I had to police my thoughts.It started out to counter act depression,then moved to anger.I allways tend to over analyze relatioships.
so I will answere more fully later.
thank you Sooson.