Hi, My husband and I have been married for 8 years now. We are a descent looking coule {not overweight and in good shape}We have ALWAYS had hot sex. It is still there. Lately, my husband has been making numerous comments that he would like to see me with another woman. I am straight and don't want infidelity in our marriage. However, I also want to continue to please him sexually, what do you think about being away on vacation,{going next month}and maybe using a conscenting female for sex with me for my husband?

There are a bunch of things to consider -

1. Do you really want to do this? How are you going to do it?
2. Are you just going to pick up a woman and say this is to get my husband off and I really am not interested in you? Are you OK with this?
3. Are you going to go to a sex club where this goes on very openly? Are you ready to see other people come onto your husband and see him turned on by others?

4. Are you and he prepared for the fact that you might find lesbian sex simply not your thing at all and just not be able to do it?
5. Are you and he prepared for you to really like it and want to do it again?
6. Are you prepared for the fact that he may not want this to be a one time thing?

7. What is going to happen afterwards? Will you keep in touch?
8. If you run into each other, will you pretend you don't know each other or?

9. What are you going to protect yourself against disease. Lesbian sex is not without risk.
10. If this is going to be a stranger, how are you going to be sure she doesn't have a really dangerous sexually transmitted disease like herpes or HIV which you may not be able to see?
11. If this is a stranger how are you going to be sure she doesn't have one of the more annoying sexually transmitted disease like chlamydia?
12. Are you going to use dental damns to help protect yourself?

13. What happens if your husband wants to have sex with her too?
14. What happens if she wants to have sex with him?
15. What happens if the sex between them is good and they want to do it again, but the sex between you and her is not?

16. If he is going to have sex with her- all the sexually transmitted questions apply, plus protection from pregnancy.

If you both can come to an agreement on these questions - then there is just one more question to ask before you do it. Is doing this just a fanstasy that should remain a fantasy, or is this something that will add excitement to our marriage and make it better?

No body can answers these questions but you and your husband and ultimately there is no right or wrong answer to whether you should do it or not.

I have been married for 12 yrs now and the wife and I have dabbled in the swinging aspect of things. I have been with other women and she has been with both. The most erotic situation was her in the middle of me and my friend. Now she does not want to play that way, or says she don't. I think she still has the naughtiness in her but does not want to admit it. I really like her being a hot horny housewife thats part of what I love about her. In referece to your question if you are not bi I am not sure that is the right situation, although it does get erotic with another person around.

Let's analyse this with common logic.
Simply that you are asking for advice here tells me that this could be a recipe for disaster and you are not really ready and haven't thought this out.. He may have been inspired by a porno or a friend. In most relationships that are NORMAL, this idea does not come up. Anyway, for some reason, your husband is looking for something different to spice up his life/ your marriage and he wants your okay on what could be considered out-in-the-open cheating in any normal sense of the word... I think trying new and unique things is a good idea, but ideas involving a third person (either male or female) may lead to trouble later on. No matter how he words it...he will want sex with her after watching you get it on with her. How do you feel about that? Some people are cut out for this; others are not. Suddenly, three can become an awkward number and a big mistake. Then fidelity is gone. Jealousy, hatred, insecurity,etc can work against any one of you and suddenly it's two against one and then all the fun is gone. I would guess that very few people can live with this combination for very long. Will it continue after vacation? Does this person or another person move in or simply stop by? Who sets the rules? Take for instance, the day you get sick or he has a fight with you or you go shopping by yourself or worse go to the hospital..... whats going to go on while your away? Does he continue love-making with the other partner? Or vice-versa? Are you good with this?
So, everybody uses protection? (A MUST) What if he or someone else (heaven forbid) accidently knocks her up? Does he take care of the kid? Do you? Does she? Who sends it to college? Who pays for clothes? Who pays for the medical bill? Dental? This could get complicated.
You must decide. So, I would look to see what is ultimately behind this and resolve that issue first before you make any decisions you might regret. Gregorio

enjoyed reading this. I am still trying to figure out how to have sex with
one person? wow you folks got it made.

I'm tired of women desperately trying to please their man as if they were a big deal...ladies, he's only a human being, stop getting out of your way to atisfy his needs when you know darn well you do not really want to engage in such acts. If you're straight, you're straight-nothing can change that. If you're gay, you're gay, if you're bisexual, you're bi. Don't try to do something you may regret sooner or later, it may back fire on. Next thing you know after he may want more, he may want other women, then he starts to cheat...al because you bought this upon yourself. Do what YOU want to do and stop trying to please your significant other. I did read the above comments soi hope i am not repetitive here. Good luck.