Before I start would like to thank for giving me great advice througout my problems with sex and I may never understand the life of sex i just wanted to say thanks. Now you told me to take a break due to me using a stamina enhancer for sex one time and I started to worry about it so i asked and now I've tried twice and I can't stop for some odd reason stop masterbating last night I just got horny and couldn't resist and done in 2 minutes. I'm worried that my never stop or every regain that stamina I had before I started having sex.I think my problem came after I started having sex or do anything sexually active i would go home and masterbate about and for the next week would continue to do it. I talked to my friends about and they thought it was a growth because I had a beard at the age of 12 and I don't know what to do. I have never been afraid to have sex but now I am and it is unbelieveable. I used to hear sayings saying don't masterbate or you will go blind or something bad might happen and I think I'm starting to realize my faults and the world of sex. Is there a problem masterbating because the most I have ever done was 6 times twice and they both happened when I was watching pornagraphy and I also have a feddish for feet when I see any womens feet I begin to fantasize about me and her having sex and revolving her doing sexual activity with her feet. I think that its wrong and I can't control it. but this is my big picture and I am currently trying to take a break for three months or at least reduce the number of times I masterbate so if you could help me or give me some advice I would appreciate it ALOT. Thanks and sorry for the long message I just had to get all of that off my chest
Masturbating and ejaculating in two minutes is a normal thing. There is nothing to worry about. When guys masturbate they usually get off pretty quickly. And it you do not masturbate very often you wil come quicker than if you do it a lot.
Teenage and young adult guys masturbate alot. It doesn't hurt them. Masturbating alot doesn't make anything bad happen to you. Masturbating alot doesn't change what it will be like when you have sex.
The only reason to be afraid to have sex is if you are too immature to be ready to have it or you are unwilling to take the precautions necessary to stay safer.
You can masturbate 10 times a day and it wil not do you any harm.
There are a lot of men who have foot fetishes. All it means is that feet turn you on. No big deal. Some guys fantasize about it - some guys do it. Most women don't mind if a guy has a thing for her feet as long as he has a thing for the rest fo her too. There is nothing wrong with it.
There is NO reason to try to not masturbate UNLESS you can't concentrate on school work, eating, sleeping, and doing other stuff. Masturbating isn't going to hurt you.
Masturbation is a normal, healthy thing to do. Stop stressing about it and just do it. And stop worrying about your stamina. Stamina doesn't matter when you masturbate.
Well I am in school right now and its like every time I see feet any where on television or in school Ijust start to fantasize about having sex with that women. that had made it hard for me to stop masterbating I'm mean last night was watching tv and there was this women who had on sandles I watched the show for five minutes and next I'm am masterbating. The same thing happen this morining and I worried but then again I'm not it just took me awhile to realize I have a thing for feet I just won't admit to it
There's nothing wrong with fantasy. Lots of guys have a thing for feet. The question is - is it interfering with you getting your school work done? If it is, then it is time to talk to a counselor at school. The only reason fantasizing or masturbating is wrong is if is making it hard for you to do the things in your llife you need to do - like school, eating, going out with friends.
The world of sex is difficult to figure out. At one time, I just wanted to go back to a time before puberty...it seems life was much easier then. But, somehow I got thru it. Here's a little about what I learned by myself, from friends and some of it Susan taught me.
Do not give up masturbation...there is nothing wrong with it unless it overtakes your life to a point where you miss important things in your life. Too much of anything can be bad...even water. Right time, right place...in private.
There is no reason to stop masturbating, maybe to slow down a bit. It is good for your prostate and removes harmful cancer causing carcinogens.
Masturbating/sex will make you tired...almost all guys get tired. So, sometimes a short break is good. Masturbating at night before sleeping makes you less tired.
If you decide to masturbate, do it...forget it and focus on your life.
Masturbation that lasts longer than 2 minutes is way more satisfying mentally than a "quickie" or series of "quickies".. Try to make each session last longer. Use the start stop method. It will clean you out better.
Limit your porno watching to only 15-20 minutes say every other day or twice a week.. It can be a bad habit if you watch too much...a little is better.
About life....
Develop hobbies that interest you. If you can make a little money doing this, even better.
Focus on where you will be going in life...what you will do when you leave school. Never let anyone ever stop you from achieving whatever goal you set for yourself.
Lastly...think positive about everything you do. You can achieve wonders just by motivating. It doesn't take money or brains...just focus and you'll get there....you will find a way.
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Well I'm more focused on school, work and anything that interests me. It's just it amazed how I went from having the will to have sex for 1 to 2 hours to being done 2 to 5 minutes and I been taking some advice I talked to my friends and want to talk to my doctor but I think he may have nothing for me I think I will focus on me even if I have the best stamina in the world or the worst stamina in the world I feel thats my best bet for now.
You are not going to like this post, but I think maybe if you try to read it with an open mind it will help.
Until recently you have been a child. You have a child's body. You may have sexual feelings - babies have sexual feelings - but you have just started to have sexual feelings and think about the big picture of sex beyond how good it feels to your body.
When your body is immature, you can masturbate all day long because a child is not supposed to be masturbating/ having sex and having children. It feels good - so do it. Do it as long as you like - no harm done.
But as your body matures, sex has another purpose - to make babies. If you could have sex for hours on end and never ejaculate then there would not be many babies born. On the other hand if you are able to ejaculate and then quickly bounce back again - there would be too many babies. So as frustrating as this is for you, it is a sign that your body is maturing and getting older.
This is not about stamina. This is about maturity.
Now there are ways that men have learned to be able to have sex longer than usual - but this requires a good solid relationship with a person who understands what needs to happen and experience. This is not something you can accomplish alone or overnight.
Relax. Everything will be OK. Just give it time. Your body is changing and maturing and you have to get used to the new you.
But why did it start after the third time I had sex and it makes me feel like(this may sound stupid) I broke it. But I am starting to understand and I have not masterbated as much like I use to so would that or just take it one day at time.
I was 14 when I first started having sex and at first I was fine and now I am catious but right now I am more focused on whats important. I think personally I have to let myself recharge. I can prove this because before I address this issue to you I tried to stop for two weeks and I masterbating and I lasted 5 to 7 minutes so that what made me think that. But I still don't know my if my body is done maturing or growing but I guess I will haave to wait and see.